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Don't get me wrong, I love the fact that I had it, I love the fact I am losing weight and getting healthy but it seems like people who didn't have the surgery are trying to make me feel bad for having it.

I have an instagram to show my progress to my friends and family and I guess to anyone else who follows but when I read though some people's bios or captions, they usually state they're losing weight or lost weight naturally and naturally is usually in all caps.

I am starting to feel self-conscious about me not losing weight "naturally" and when I get that feeling I usually find myself eating more than I should.

I have a strong will to say "nobody is going to make me feel bad for having weight loss surgery" but then I start to realize that I should have lost more weight than I have in this past 7 1/2 months.

I am finding myself sort of binge eating and it causes dumping syndrome which is bad and I am also binge drinking fluids because I feel like I'm not getting enough of them. (by binge drinking I mean taking huge glups of Water and juice, tea or coffee).

Sometimes I don't walk every day or every other day like I should because I am usually so tired and weak but yet I have eating issues.

It's like, no, I'm not hungry-I am hardly ever hungry now-but I feel like I HAVE to eat sometimes because I used to do that before the surgery, I was always eating something no matter if it was chips or grades.

I guess I am a bit depressed because I'm not as small as I thought I was going to be after 7 1/2 months but I'm just starting to really feel bad about the surgery.

I am looking at my old pictures and I am honestly not even seeing any difference anymore.

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Do not self sabotage - you've done well - stay strong! I am in therapy for this and I encourage it. Think of the long term goal and reach for it! Who gives a damn how others are losing NATURALLY - I've heard many say that when they're actually on diet pills so they are usually full of s@$t! You're not doing this for them - you're doing it for you! It's never too late to get back on track.

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Do not self sabotage - you've done well - stay strong! I am in therapy for this and I encourage it. Think of the long term goal and reach for it! Who gives a damn how others are losing NATURALLY - I've heard many say that when they're actually on diet pills so they are usually full of s@$t! You're not doing this for them - you're doing it for you! It's never too late to get back on track.

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Thank you so much! I needed to read this!

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Stop posting on Instagram.The world doesn't have to know your every move.Do your thing without the need to have others see and applaud your every move.Do your thing for you.Social media is not all sugar and candy.< /p>

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I don't know how old you are but us older folks (for the most part) could give two s***s what other ppl think!! You did this to be healthy and keep doing it for you!! Stay on track...natural weight losers probably don't even understand wls let alone all the hard work that goes into it. They feel it's an easy way out!! It's not!! Keep going and prove to yourself how better off you will be!!

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What everyone else has said it true, and I would also like to remind you of that awesome little red button IG has that says BLOCK! Talk shit = get blocked! I have a separate IG for my weight loss stuff too and if it's not encouraging it gets blocked! There's enough bullshit and nay sayers in this world and you shouldn't have time for them!

What's you IG user name? I'd love to blow up your comments with praise and encouragement!

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Don't listen too them. What's your IG? I would love to extend my friendship. I posted on Facebook that I have a surgery date and got nothing but congrats and hundreds of likes. Keep up the good work. This is not an overnight process.

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Not to sound "mean" to your opposers, but when they gain their weight back "naturally"....will they post that??? Get back on track and reach out to your wt loss therapist... take care.

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Dear Meridian. Don't even trip on your haters. Stay focused and always remember why YOU got your surgery in the 1st place. Remember this... As long as you have a haters group that means you are doing something right. Keep ya head up !

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