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Omgsh when I was smaller years ago and would diet lose 20 pounds I'd get called fat and so I know what you mean.... They say nothing before but when you start to lose boom your fat blah blah.... I think it's a jealousy thing and for people to feel better about them selves... but I'd get ugly and say something back bc I'm sure he's not all that and a bag of goodness haha

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I think my best experience was this girl at uni who would constantly make comments about my weight... back then i was really big and had no self esteem so i wouldn't say anything because I didn't want to be left out of the group.

I finished uni and didnt keep in contact with her... i had my band and lost all my weight... i ended up bumping into her and she didn't recognise me!

The icing on the cake was she had GAINED so much weight she was literally my initial size!!!

That was the most gratifying situations ive encountered to date. .. i normally wouldn't be satisfied with someone's misfortune. ... but in this instance i was like.... karma is a b!tch and so was she lol

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It's you guys' own damned fault. You have your genitalia just hanging around, swinging to and fro--like little punching bags. If you don't want them punched---SUCK THEM UP!!!! :)

Omg!! Now that you mention it... they really do look like a pair of punching bags!!!

*jogs on the spot humming the rocky theme*

Um... @@KindaFamiliar ?

Run...

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@@CHM

Run???

I'm a fat man!!!!

I'm allergic to running!!!

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That could be a new marketing campaign for exercise........

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@@CHM

Run???

I'm a fat man!!!!

I'm allergic to running!!!

Wrong answer, Brat! You are NO longer "a fat man". So, if running is called for----RUN!!!, young man, run!!!!

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sometimes I say to people "surely you did not mean that to sound as rude as it did?" "or do you realize you said that out loud?"

but most of the time those comments are related to someone who has said something truly tasteless in front of my son who has a disability........... you just can't imagine the things that come out of people's mouths.

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Wrong answer, Brat! You are NO longer "a fat man". So, if running is called for----RUN!!!, young man, run!!!!

"Brat"? LMAO!

Well now THAT will make him feel about 5 years old...

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sometimes I say to people "surely you did not mean that to sound as rude as it did?" "or do you realize you said that out loud?"

but most of the time those comments are related to someone who has said something truly tasteless in front of my son who has a disability........... you just can't imagine the things that come out of people's mouths.

Actually thats a tactful way of pointing out rudeness....

I just might use that one....

I usually am gobsmacked and say nothing or i fly off the handle.. lol

No medium for me... i am one for extremes lol....

Even with my weight... im either really fat or really skinny hahahaha

I either eat the whole bag or dont have any at all.

All or nothing... i really should learn how to control that lol probably what got me here initially lol

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I am highly skilled at "l'esprit d'escalier" so I like having responses for common situations that come up. feel free to use these ones as your own.

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oh wait wait i shoulda told you this in the beginning. when i lost my first like 60lbs some guy said to me "hey!!! i didn't even recognize you! cuz you were pretty fat before, but now you look good!" :angry: and granted he said it in spanish and maybe i just translated it harshly but still.......aaaaaaaaaa---hole lol

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Me too... like i said in an earlier post.... i came up with so many comebacks AFTER all was said and done....

Now i am just hoping he says something again so i can use some of them... no doubt if he does... my mind will go blank again lol

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oh wait wait i shoulda told you this in the beginning. when i lost my first like 60lbs some guy said to me "hey!!! i didn't even recognize you! cuz you were pretty fat before, but now you look good!" :angry: and granted he said it in spanish and maybe i just translated it harshly but still.......aaaaaaaaaa---hole lol

OOOoooooh i hate that.

Its like ..wow... what did you think of me before... oh wait... you just told me what you actually thought... grrrrrr

But.. i guess its a good thing for us in the future... we will be healthy, thin and fabulous... with empathy and we will know how to not hurt people..

There is a girl at work who is a big girl.. ... like twice the size of me now... she is only 20 years old... she eats the worst food ever.. in one week she would eat the amount of crappy food that i would eat in a year! She is that bad!

Her stomach apron is down to her knees and sits around a metre away from her desk because of it.

I feel like i should go up to her as a fellow fatty and say something... but i know its not my place.. it breaks my heart because she is so young and a really nice person and she is literally eating herself to death.

Its times like this i wish i didn't have to censor myself.

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Wrong answer, Brat! You are NO longer "a fat man". So, if running is called for----RUN!!!, young man, run!!!!

"Brat"? LMAO!

Well now THAT will make him feel about 5 years old...

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"Brat" is a bantering endearment up here in the Catskills---as if talking to a younger brother. :) I guess if the "Brat" fits...

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I am highly skilled at "l'esprit d'escalier" so I like having responses for common situations that come up. feel free to use these ones as your own.

Thank you for that new term. I have never heard it before. And there's not much I haven't heard of. ;)

For others who don't know what it means, it's "staircase wit" -- a French term used in English for the predicament of thinking of the perfect retort too late.

Hubby and I are loving it! Thanks again. :)

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