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Hi, my name is Cassie and June 8th will be my one year anniversary of my gastric sleeve. I have lost 113 lbs. which is great. I was amazed by my success and how well I felt during the first 9 months. Weight just flew off and getting thyroid meds, I had no real problems. In the last 2 months, things have drastically changed. It took me 9 months to lose 100 lbs. but 2 months to lose only 13 more. I know there are "stalls" to deal with, but this has gone on for many weeks. The worst part, maybe because I'm not pleased with my slow loss, I have begun snacking and feeling VERY hungry. Haven't done anything to gain weight, but I fear that may not be far away. I desperately need to start taking something to curb my appetite, and fast! I am begging my fellow bariatric patients to let me know of things they have tried, and what has worked and what hasn't. All the input I get will be a really big help, and so appreciated. I didn't expect to go through this and it's very scary.

Sincerely and with thanks,

Cassie111 :(

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Uh ... It took me 8 months to lose the last 15 pounds.

Why so desperate? It sounds like you're doing fine. Weight loss does slow down.

And your stomach is healed, so restriction has eased.

Now is when you must continue to use your behavioral tools you've learned.

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P.S. If you're eating sugar and slider foods, those can stimulate your appetite. So you should cold turkey those.

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Protein and Water are really the best ways to curb your appetite.

Why not make an appointment with your NUT to talk about your concerns?

Embrace the Stall

http://BariatricPal.com/index.php?/topic/351046-Embrace-the-Stall

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I am 3 years post-op RNY gastric bypass surgery. This is my approach in the "Maintenance phase". http://www.breadandbutterscience.com/Surgery2.pdf

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Hi everyone, it's been not quite a month since my post at the top of this page. I saw my surgeon yesterday, 2 days after my 1 year anniversary. He was so pleased with my 118 pound weight loss and says he sees few patients who lost that much weight in the first year. I'm in the 80 to 85th percentile. Of course, that pleased me no end. Since approx. the end of January, the 30th to be exact. due to MANY emotional issues going on with me right now (nothing surgery related) I mentally hit the same wall that a weight loss stall hits. I quit exercising, except 2 days a week (down from 5) didn't really care about my Protein or Fluid intake and pretty much just sat around. I was, and still am in a sort of dark place that I'm trying with all my might to climb out of. But my history has always dictated that eating soothes the pain, which I of course know it doesn't but that thought doesn't help at 10:00 at night when I HAVE to snack. Never have yet gone to a drive thru, very little starch, hell, not even a slice of pizza which is "legal". But "noshing" on tons of "legal" crackers or chips at night I know is not a good sign. I have never been able to make my head rule my heart and if these rough issues in my life don't let up soon, I am scared of my prognosis. I have not gained one pound. God must be taking care of that. I've NEVER been the type to focus on the good instead of the bad. Just a "glass is half empty" personality, all my life and I'm 56 years old. I guess this is more of a venting post than anything else, just always hoping someone will say something back that clicks, especially if they are or have been in my shoes. Why do I let the pressures and deeply affecting problems in my life always win out? This MUST NOT happen this time. Shopping for new clothes has become entertainment but has just added another burden by really damaging the finances. My family and therapist do all they can and have been wonderful. Yet on it goes. I thank anyone who has taken the time to read this and maybe even give it some consideration. I will strive to keep moving forward by going to group and trying to just work things out. God bless all of you....the very successful ones and ones who may be struggling. Cassie

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Good on ya, Cassie. :)

I keep learning from my own experience and hearing from those WLS patients much farther down the road than I am now (will be 2 years post-op this August) that we never reach the end of the road. The road (and we) just keep going over hills and through dales.

Was in a conversation earlier this morning with some WLS patients (not on this board) who warned me that Year Three is a real booger.

So I'm getting used to the idea that I won't ever be "home free."

I think this may be why it's called "recovery" and not "recovered."

;)

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Hi everyone, it's been not quite a month since my post at the top of this page. I saw my surgeon yesterday, 2 days after my 1 year anniversary. He was so pleased with my 118 pound weight loss and says he sees few patients who lost that much weight in the first year. I'm in the 80 to 85th percentile. Of course, that pleased me no end. Since approx. the end of January, the 30th to be exact. due to MANY emotional issues going on with me right now (nothing surgery related) I mentally hit the same wall that a weight loss stall hits. I quit exercising, except 2 days a week (down from 5) didn't really care about my Protein or Fluid intake and pretty much just sat around. I was, and still am in a sort of dark place that I'm trying with all my might to climb out of. But my history has always dictated that eating soothes the pain, which I of course know it doesn't but that thought doesn't help at 10:00 at night when I HAVE to snack. Never have yet gone to a drive thru, very little starch, hell, not even a slice of pizza which is "legal". But "noshing" on tons of "legal" crackers or chips at night I know is not a good sign. I have never been able to make my head rule my heart and if these rough issues in my life don't let up soon, I am scared of my prognosis. I have not gained one pound. God must be taking care of that. I've NEVER been the type to focus on the good instead of the bad. Just a "glass is half empty" personality, all my life and I'm 56 years old. I guess this is more of a venting post than anything else, just always hoping someone will say something back that clicks, especially if they are or have been in my shoes. Why do I let the pressures and deeply affecting problems in my life always win out? This MUST NOT happen this time. Shopping for new clothes has become entertainment but has just added another burden by really damaging the finances. My family and therapist do all they can and have been wonderful. Yet on it goes. I thank anyone who has taken the time to read this and maybe even give it some consideration. I will strive to keep moving forward by going to group and trying to just work things out. God bless all of you....the very successful ones and ones who may be struggling. Cassie

Congrats on your success! You should be very proud! In terms of the difficulty you are experiencing - have you considered therapy for emotional eating? I'm doing it pre-op and find it helpful in alot of areas of my life. Stay strong!!

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Hi everyone, it's been not quite a month since my post at the top of this page. I saw my surgeon yesterday, 2 days after my 1 year anniversary. He was so pleased with my 118 pound weight loss and says he sees few patients who lost that much weight in the first year. I'm in the 80 to 85th percentile. Of course, that pleased me no end. Since approx. the end of January, the 30th to be exact. due to MANY emotional issues going on with me right now (nothing surgery related) I mentally hit the same wall that a weight loss stall hits. I quit exercising, except 2 days a week (down from 5) didn't really care about my Protein or Fluid intake and pretty much just sat around. I was, and still am in a sort of dark place that I'm trying with all my might to climb out of. But my history has always dictated that eating soothes the pain, which I of course know it doesn't but that thought doesn't help at 10:00 at night when I HAVE to snack. Never have yet gone to a drive thru, very little starch, hell, not even a slice of pizza which is "legal". But "noshing" on tons of "legal" crackers or chips at night I know is not a good sign. I have never been able to make my head rule my heart and if these rough issues in my life don't let up soon, I am scared of my prognosis. I have not gained one pound. God must be taking care of that. I've NEVER been the type to focus on the good instead of the bad. Just a "glass is half empty" personality, all my life and I'm 56 years old. I guess this is more of a venting post than anything else, just always hoping someone will say something back that clicks, especially if they are or have been in my shoes. Why do I let the pressures and deeply affecting problems in my life always win out? This MUST NOT happen this time. Shopping for new clothes has become entertainment but has just added another burden by really damaging the finances. My family and therapist do all they can and have been wonderful. Yet on it goes. I thank anyone who has taken the time to read this and maybe even give it some consideration. I will strive to keep moving forward by going to group and trying to just work things out. God bless all of you....the very successful ones and ones who may be struggling. Cassie

It sounds like you are having a really rough time.

Do you have a therapist?

You may want to consider talking to your PCP, too. To me it sounds like you may be depressed.

As someone who has struggled with depression, I highly recommend that you talk to someone. There is help available.

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