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Kimmey16    54

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This may sound like a touching topic but I have always had a problem when it comes to dating. Don't get me wrong I have a daughter and I have had boyfriends in my past but no one really wanted to make a commitment. I take it because I have always been overweight.

High school I never had a prom date, actually I have never been on a date with a guy just me and him. I feel that one of my friends I have had since Jr high and he has always been here but never wanted to commit. My child father I was with him for 13 years but there was a lot of infidelity..

So like every other human being in the world as I am on my journey I would like the chance to finally go out on a date, finally settle down and feel real love, I would like the chance to finally walk down the aisle..

Give me you input on how your love life changed..

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This may sound like a touching topic but I have always had a problem when it comes to dating. Don't get me wrong I have a daughter and I have had boyfriends in my past but no one really wanted to make a commitment. I take it because I have always been overweight.

High school I never had a prom date, actually I have never been on a date with a guy just me and him. I feel that one of my friends I have had since Jr high and he has always been here but never wanted to commit. My child father I was with him for 13 years but there was a lot of infidelity..

So like every other human being in the world as I am on my journey I would like the chance to finally go out on a date, finally settle down and feel real love, I would like the chance to finally walk down the aisle..

Give me you input on how your love life changed..

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Not sure about others but for me I'm married. My husband has always told me I'm beautiful. Unfortunately I haven't felt that way in a long time. He now tells me I'm beautiful and he is proud of me. He is happy I'm going to be around longer to enjoy some grandkids. I'm in my 40’s but what I have noticed lately is ppl talk to me more. My daughter has noticed, my son's have noticed and lol mu hubby gets jealous. which is really weird but great. Enjoy but I can tell you a real man won't care about your weight, except that your healthy.

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Kimmey16    54

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This may sound like a touching topic but I have always had a problem when it comes to dating. Don't get me wrong I have a daughter and I have had boyfriends in my past but no one really wanted to make a commitment. I take it because I have always been overweight.

High school I never had a prom date, actually I have never been on a date with a guy just me and him. I feel that one of my friends I have had since Jr high and he has always been here but never wanted to commit. My child father I was with him for 13 years but there was a lot of infidelity..

So like every other human being in the world as I am on my journey I would like the chance to finally go out on a date, finally settle down and feel real love, I would like the chance to finally walk down the aisle..

Give me you input on how your love life changed..

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Not sure about others but for me I'm married. My husband has always told me I'm beautiful. Unfortunately I haven't felt that way in a long time. He now tells me I'm beautiful and he is proud of me. He is happy I'm going to be around longer to enjoy some grandkids. I'm in my 40’s but what I have noticed lately is ppl talk to me more. My daughter has noticed, my son's have noticed and lol mu hubby gets jealous. which is really weird but great. Enjoy but I can tell you a real man won't care about your weight, except that your healthy.

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That's absolutely true a real man don't care. I'm only 27 and lord knows now days and time people in my generations heads are on backwards.. Lol.. I happy for you and your husband... Yea, it will make a person jealous to see someone else talking to your mate.. Lol..

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KrissieLong    9

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Hey you girls have it easy these days. I was dating in the late 80 ' s and in southern California. Everyone but me was a size 8 or smaller. My friends were all like 5 foot nothing and size 6. I'm like 5 foot 8 and size 13. ( when I was younger) in fact I'm almost there again.

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Don't worry Kimmey...just concentrate on you....get to your goal weight and feel great about "YOU".Take care of yourself...the guys are out there.The weight is an issue for a lot of men...nobody wants to say it but a lot of guys can't handle being seen with the "fat girl".They don't all express it but hints come out in what they say....

Don't worry they are around...gain confidence and realize you are "The Prize"!

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Read the book "Trust" by Iyanla Vanzant. It will change your life. You'll find your one true love this time :) You're beautiful!

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This may sound like a touching topic but I have always had a problem when it comes to dating. Don't get me wrong I have a daughter and I have had boyfriends in my past but no one really wanted to make a commitment. I take it because I have always been overweight.

High school I never had a prom date, actually I have never been on a date with a guy just me and him. I feel that one of my friends I have had since Jr high and he has always been here but never wanted to commit. My child father I was with him for 13 years but there was a lot of infidelity..

So like every other human being in the world as I am on my journey I would like the chance to finally go out on a date, finally settle down and feel real love, I would like the chance to finally walk down the aisle..

Give me you input on how your love life changed..

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Hi Kimmy 16,

Your weight or a lack of it doesn't define you, it's the intangibles. Your favourite pastime, your quarks. The man for you doesn't care about weight and shouldn't. I have always been someone that struggled with weight, i have been an athlete and a fat person in the off season back to fat person. Never had any luck with woman, whether fit or fat, what was the problem? The problem was me or more to the point my low self esteem and lack of self confidence. 20 years ago i learned to love myself first and you will not believe what happened, i developed self confidence and a whole new world opened to me. Today i still have these confidence whether im in one of my incarnations (fat or thin) presently fat, why i'm getting bypass surgery, even when i'm overweight i am still confident.

The surgery will present a new you, but learn to love you first, then it doesn't matter, new you old you, your confidence will show through. For me theres nothing sexier then a confident woman no matter what the size.

Good luck and enjoy the journey.

Bmoe

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Kimmey16    54

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Don't worry Kimmey...just concentrate on you....get to your goal weight and feel great about "YOU".Take care of yourself...the guys are out there.The weight is an issue for a lot of men...nobody wants to say it but a lot of guys can't handle being seen with the "fat girl".They don't all express it but hints come out in what they say....

Don't worry they are around...gain confidence and realize you are "The Prize"!

Thank you.. You are so right I am "the prize".. Lol

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Read the book "Trust" by Iyanla Vanzant. It will change your life. You'll find your one true love this time :) You're beautiful!

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Thank you.. I will look for her book... You're beautiful also..

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This may sound like a touching topic but I have always had a problem when it comes to dating. Don't get me wrong I have a daughter and I have had boyfriends in my past but no one really wanted to make a commitment. I take it because I have always been overweight.

High school I never had a prom date, actually I have never been on a date with a guy just me and him. I feel that one of my friends I have had since Jr high and he has always been here but never wanted to commit. My child father I was with him for 13 years but there was a lot of infidelity..

So like every other human being in the world as I am on my journey I would like the chance to finally go out on a date, finally settle down and feel real love, I would like the chance to finally walk down the aisle..

Give me you input on how your love life changed..

Sent from my SAMSUNG-SM-G750A using the BariatricPal App

Hi Kimmy 16,

Your weight or a lack of it doesn't define you, it's the intangibles. Your favourite pastime, your quarks. The man for you doesn't care about weight and shouldn't. I have always been someone that struggled with weight, i have been an athlete and a fat person in the off season back to fat person. Never had any luck with woman, whether fit or fat, what was the problem? The problem was me or more to the point my low self esteem and lack of self confidence. 20 years ago i learned to love myself first and you will not believe what happened, i developed self confidence and a whole new world opened to me. Today i still have these confidence whether im in one of my incarnations (fat or thin) presently fat, why i'm getting bypass surgery, even when i'm overweight i am still confident.

The surgery will present a new you, but learn to love you first, then it doesn't matter, new you old you, your confidence will show through. For me theres nothing sexier then a confident woman no matter what the size.

Good luck and enjoy the journey.

Bmoe

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Thank you... Your right it start with accepting and loving yourself first..

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