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I have been heavy all my life, and this surgery is a way for me to add years onto my life and I am so blessed and excited about it. I have always struggled with self image but as I go future in this journey the more my future body scares me. Although my weight is a problem it has been with me forever and its hard to imagine myself without it ( appearance wise) Does anyone else have self esteem issues about post surgery body images, if so what's so tips to cope with it? Thanks in advance

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Welcome! I really didn't think I would....but I have struggled with my neck...lol. It's the one thing I can't cover...When it bugs me, and it is getting less often that it does, I focus on all the things I can do now...exercise, walk between tables in a restaurant without bumping into people, fly without a seatbelt extender....I could go on but I have to get ready for work :) I made the decision early on that I would love my new body for all the things it could do now...and for supporting me till I was ready to take care of it...not how it looks without clothes. I have an awesome husband of 31years who loved me heavier and now healthier and that definitely helps. It's all in how you frame it for yourself. Good luck!

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I am getting my surgery April 4 and I know exactly what you are talking about. Same as you I have always been bigger since as far back as I can remember and I have always been pretty confident I didn't have alot of bad experiences because of my weight and am getting the surgery to get healthy as I am 31 now and things will start falling apart eventually if I don't change something. I am terrified that after this surgery and the weight loss I will hate my body which I don't right now. That's the part that scares me the most about this.

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It will take time for you to adapt to your new size. For most of us, when we look into the mirror we still see our fat selves. So take it slow so your brain can adapt to the new you. You self confidence will improve but it may dip when you begin to notice excess skin. Ironically, you will likewise still feel insecure about your body even though you may lose a massive amount of weight. Just realize that there is surgery to remove excess skin and that you don't have to live with it for the rest of your life.

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I have this problem as well I haven't been heavy all my life just after I had my daughter I started to gain weight .. A lot of weight but I been this way for 5 years now so I worry about the same thing specially because I been told I have a big head lol I worry if the weight is going to come off the wrong places or am I going to regret it

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Yes it's a physical change but mentally I can only imagine what it will be like...I have always been confident with myself and body I never let it effect me but at the same time I have always been the funny fat girl lol to put it bluntly and I'm worried I won't like how my body changes or people will treat me differently. I guess all we can do is go through it to be healthier and hope the coping skills we have will work. I'm not against therapy and if I need it I will venture there. Who knows maybe I will feel great and it won't effect me. It's all the unknowns

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My wife tells me all the time I'm going to look like a brats doll lol but I'm excited and just hope everything goes smoothly I'm glad I found this group

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