I had my surgery 11/1/2013. I am struggling with any weight loss. So disappointed. I know I cheat, but the depression is so bad I don't even want to exercise or even try any more. I need a buddy or a group to help me get past this.

I had my surgery 11/1/2013. I am struggling with any weight loss. So disappointed. I know I cheat, but the depression is so bad I don't even want to exercise or even try any more. I need a buddy or a group to help me get past this.

You need to speak with your surgeon about a fill possibly to help with the hunger and you should also look for a professional to help you with the depression and lack of motivation...and why you cheat. I'm not saying this just to hear myself...I have been banded for three years and two years ago, I started seeing a therapist to help me with the root causes of my obesity and why I use food as a reward, or as punishment, or why I choose poorly or eat to excess.

Doesn't mean I'm cured, but I've been in maintenance for about 18 months and working it every day...even if I'm not always successful. Having a buddy is nice, but ultimately, you have to be accountable and not lean on others for your motivation. Tough love I know but I believe in you and we're here on this forum to help however we can.

Let us know what the surgeon says. Call today for that appointment!

Oh...and just so you know, I'm also 50 something and until I had my surgery, very sedentary. I still don't like to exercise, but I do it..and once I get to the Y, I am always glad I did. Heading over there tonight as a matter of fact to spend an hour in the pool Water exercising.