New and Alone.

[bam052005 0]

I'm 8 weeks Post-Op Gastric Bypass... it was a struggle at first.

Day 1 of surgery my doctor didn't staple my pouch all and left a quater sized hole, leaving me to bleed and throw up blood every hour on the hour.

Day 2 go back under to fix problem.

Day 6 released from hospital... don't remeber anything until after 3 weeks of surgey. So much pain, so much hate for what I did to myself. I wanted to end life...

Week 5 horrible pain in the upper abdomen, trip to the er, ABSCESS, infection from blood left by the doctor on outside of the pouch.

Day 1 drainage surgery, bag stunk so bad! Ugly green color it was horrible. .

Day 7 drainage bag removed, released from hospital, no more infection...

Week 8 solid foods... nothing solid stays down.

I don't know anyone who has gastric bypass that I can turn to for help or to talk about stuff with, its hard I feel so alone because my parents (I'm 29yrs old) they dont understand what's going on or what I'm going through... which is why I became a member here.

[The Candidate 3,215]

Wow, I'm so sorry for all of your terrible complications. I have nothing to compare with as I didn't have any myself. But I do know for all of the many experiences I've read over the years, that most who are able to get past the tough times, still end up with no regrets in the end. I sure hope that is your outcome as well.

It's tough going through this alone. Have you searched for any support groups in your area?

I truly hope things improve for you soon. My heart goes out to you!

[toasty 371]

I am so sorry to hear about all of your bad experiences.

I have heard of a number of people who have had really hard times in the first weeks after surgery with awful pain and such. It is awful that you are having to go through that.

All I can say is don't push yourself. Don't just start eating foods you don't feel ready for. Maybe stay on soft foods for a while more before going to full solids, or even pureed foods for a while. With all you have been through, your pouch is probably pretty angry.

We are all here for you! Please use this site heavily, look around, we are all on the same journey and you will find so many wonderful people here who are sympathetic or understand what you are going through.

In the end, things will get better and you will be very happy you got the surgery. Just hang in there!

[Djmohr 6,965]

I am so very sorry you are experiencing such horrible complications!

At this point, what phase of the diet are you currently on? It would help to have this information. Given your complications I am guessing you are either on puréed or soft foods. Maybe give us some idea of what you are currently trying to eat.

When you say solid foods, does that mean a regular diet? If so, you might need more time on puréed or soft foods give. The trauma to your pouch. There have been a lot of people that have had to take a step back and advance even more slowly. Maybe try taking a week and go back to liquids for a few days, followed by puréed.

[Karma J Riddell Henson 68]

That sounds horrible! So sorry you went through that! hopefully now you are on the mend.

[bam052005 0]

Wow, I'm so sorry for all of your terrible complications. I have nothing to compare with as I didn't have any myself. But I do know for all of the many experiences I've read over the years, that most who are able to get past the tough times, still end up with no regrets in the end. I sure hope that is your outcome as well.

It's tough going through this alone. Have you searched for any support groups in your area?

I truly hope things improve for you soon. My heart goes out to you!

there's not really any support groups... I found one at the hospital I got my surgery at but they only meet once a month.

I am so sorry to hear about all of your bad experiences.

I have heard of a number of people who have had really hard times in the first weeks after surgery with awful pain and such. It is awful that you are having to go through that.

All I can say is don't push yourself. Don't just start eating foods you don't feel ready for. Maybe stay on soft foods for a while more before going to full solids, or even pureed foods for a while. With all you have been through, your pouch is probably pretty angry.

We are all here for you! Please use this site heavily, look around, we are all on the same journey and you will find so many wonderful people here who are sympathetic or understand what you are going through.

In the end, things will get better and you will be very happy you got the surgery. Just hang in there!

Thank you so much, I thank you for all the support

[bam052005 0]

I am so very sorry you are experiencing such horrible complications!

At this point, what phase of the diet are you currently on? It would help to have this information. Given your complications I am guessing you are either on puréed or soft foods. Maybe give us some idea of what you are currently trying to eat.

When you say solid foods, does that mean a regular diet? If so, you might need more time on puréed or soft foods give. The trauma to your pouch. There have been a lot of people that have had to take a step back and advance even more slowly. Maybe try taking a week and go back to liquids for a few days, followed by puréed.

I'm 8weeks out which puts me on solid foods.... my doctor and nutritionist didn't put me on any extended restrictions, but soft foods and purred foods are what settles in ny stomach, every time I sold foods I get sick and it all just comes up..

That sounds horrible! So sorry you went through that! hopefully now you are on the mend.

It's hard but I'm trying.

[mtraverse 326]

So sorry to hear about all your post op issues! Sounds like you are on the mend at least. I would stick to soft or mushy foods s while so not to stretch your stomach and add more stress to it. Hope this helps.

[James Marusek 5,244]

On your comments that food won't say down.

The most important requirements after surgery are to meet your daily Protein, Fluid and Vitamin requirements. food is secondary because your body is converting stored fat into the energy that drives your body. Thus you lose weight. So these 3 elements are key.

So how are you doing in these 3 key areas.

Walking 30 minutes each day is also very important right after surgery. It helps the pain go away and recovery to be swifter.

solid food can be difficult especially at the beginning. I found that softer foods (chili and soups) went down much easier. I wrote a short article about my experience with bariatric surgery and included some recipes at the end. Here is a link. http://www.breadandbutterscience.com/Surgery.pdf

[RNYDawn 160]

Sending you big hugs and support. I'm sorry you went through all of that and I hope you are now recovering.

[Knitchic 97]

Oh my I feel so bad for you reading your post. I had surgery on the 22nd and have a surgery site infection and thought I was struggling until reading this. I think the surgery is so emotional to start with and then to end up with complications is so disheartening. I know I have cried the past two days and can't even explain why I am crying. Are you feeling any relief yet? I know I am frustrated because I can even focus on following the Protein and liquid requirements because I feel so bad and depressed. I try to tell myself that this shall pass.

Please know you have a family here! Feel free to message me if you want to vent or need a friend. Best wishes. Keep us posted.

[rnwrny 15]

I'd just stick with what does sit well in your stomach for now. I've been officially cleared to try any food, still focusing on Protein first of course, but it's been easiest to just stick with soft foods for the most part. Lots of tuna, chili and yogurt. Good luck, it isn't easy that's for sure!

[beachgal2935 596]

@@bam052005 I cannot even imagine as I've had no complications. My heart goes out to you and I'll keep you in my prayers. Like others have said, we can be your family. If you need me, I'm here for you. I've got some good recipes I can share or just an ear to listen if that's what you need. (((HUGS))

[beachgirl2015 7]

@@bam052005 I am sorry your having all of those problems. Try not to push your self to hard and move into things to fast. I am only 2 weeks post op and have been lucky with very little problems. But I am also young like you and I agree that a lot of people don't understand what your going through enless they have been there. I'm always here if you need someone to talk to! Good luck on your journey!

[StephOnTheMove 22]

well i know the support group is only once a month.... so are mine.. but im hoping if i go ill find someone who i can connect with and feel comfortable giving my phone number too so that maybe during the weeks when u dont have support meetings you can hangout or maybe just text or talk.... or maybe go out and distract yourself from all the pain... see a movie? Idk just ideas. I can't imagine the pain you have been thru... but know that you are not alone. many of people on here have had some pretty ugly complications. and even those of us who havent... we are on ur journey. personally i think your doctors maybe jumped the gun on the solid foods... sure its ur 8th week but you have had so many issues that you probably have to go much slower... i'd stick to the mushy foods phase... and give ur body time to heal from all its been thru... i believe you are on the mend and you will eventually not have those issues with solid food. <3 Continue fighting even when you don't want to.... you've already survived so much. it is only going to be better from here.