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I always have a fear that I won't lose weight...and that I'm eating too much or bad things or I'm doing something wrong and that the surgery is gonna fail for me...it's really giving me anxiety..I feel like I'm going to sabotage myself soon...

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Don't do it! We got this surgery to be free from all that worry. Your body will take care of you if you let it. I'm 10 wks out and I don't measure or stress on anything. I'm over my food obsession. I eat until I'm full and that's it. I've lost 40lbs. You will do this. No more dieting. No more failing. We've got this!!!!!!! Relax and you'll see. ❤️

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Not weighing things and waiting to feel full doesn't work for everyone. I would recommend weighing if you feel like you might sabotage yourself. If you only eat what is on your plate then you will stick to your plan better. I think at some points we are all afraid of failure. This surgery works, look at all the veterans on here. Use them for your inspiration and work your plan. Hopefully as you lose you will begin to inspire yourself also...Good luck!

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@@confusedgirl18 I have spend the majority of my life in that exact same position as you have described and for me, I dont think it will ever go away completely

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It is a demon inside your head that some people just don't understand. Everyone had different ways of dealing with it.

My weight anxiety put my on medication. Which did help, but medication is not for everyone.

First of all my anxiety has simmered down tremendously after I booked my surgery it was like opening a window on a summer's evening. The fresh air just pour in on my life. , it went down even more when I told my family doctor and it went down even more when I told my hair dresser. Sounds weird but the true facT is a woman's hair dresser is also a form of therapy.

My secret for when i want to eat and know that I shouldn't. or when i am roaming the cupboard for a late night snack ... I eat ice cubes. I have an ice maker in my fridge so it makes perfect sized ones. Before then i would just make ice cubes filling the trays up half way. it started when I was pregnant. I didnt want to gain a ton of weight from junk food so I chomped on them when I wanted a bad snack.

I eat about 32 oz of Water a day in ice cubes. I was terrified at my last dentist appointment that all the enamel would be gone off my teeth and my dentist would look at me with those "dentist eyes" but he didnt.

Working on weight anxiety is something that you do have to deal with otherwise it will get completely out of control and take over your brain 24/7. I always feel much better when I come on here and do a rant or a cry for help.

My surgery is scheduled for next week and I have the same nerves about whether or not the surgery will work. But if the surgery didn't work, it wouldn't be so popular and you wouldn't have all these great people on this website supporting your every concern.

Join us on the looser-bench.

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