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The end of a long-term relationship! Finding myself again!



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Hello,

I started a relationship with a guy back in 2004. We were young and in love!

Well the past three years took a nose dive we had a blissful seven years that I will eternally cherish. The last three years were a hazy mess. We both have Bipolar. His anxiety got so bad and so did his obsessing over the relationship and his different phobias took place. I haven't really seen him in the past three years, I tried to stick it out hoping he would get better. Then tonight it came down like a Hurricane! He told me if I left his life he could get better. As harsh as it was hearing it I realized I needed to walk away for good. So we split amicably!

I really feel alone I mean I have no friends, all I had was him. Sure I have my parents and my family. It's just not the same. I'm however embarking on this amazing journey of attending a weight loss seminar tomorrow and I see a bright future for myself!

I guess you can say this has been a blessing in disguise.

I'm finding myself again!

Lisa

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Lisa... so bitter sweet. I hope this journey is the start of a fantastic life for yourself !!

Good luck and warmest wishes in all things :D

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When a door closes, somewhere, a window opens. I'm betting this is the beginning of a wonderful new stage of your life. Welcome to the site!

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You will find lots of support here. Good luck on your journey!

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Thank you so much for the support!

Today marks a new day especially since I'm going to the bariatric free seminar. :)

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You can do it. I left my 23 year marriage last summer. I was alone long before that emotionally. We are reborn with WLS and I look forward to many good years ahead, alone or not.

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Good Luck Lisa, you are not alone. My bf ended our 4yr relationship. I was glad also it ended because it was becoming unhealthy.

I am going to get sleeve done this august. It will be a new beginning for us.

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My ex -wife of 21 years was bipolar (though in retrospect I think she was a borderline). So I feel your pain. Give yourself lots of time to heal. There are many trolls and lowlifes who seem to be able to sense when people are vulnerable after a break up. So protect yourself and heal. And I hope you will blessed by this board. Many supportive people from a large wide variety of backgrounds.

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      On day 4 of the 2 week liquid pre-op diet. Surgery scheduled for June 11th.
      Soooo I am coming to a realization
      of something and I'm not sure what to do about it. For years the only thing I've enjoyed is eating. We rarely do anything or go anywhere and if we do it always includes food. Family comes over? Big family dinner! Go camping? Food! Take a short ride or trip? Food! Holiday? Food! Go out of town for a Dr appointment? Food! When we go to a new town we don't look for any attractions, we look for restaurants we haven't been to. Heck, I look forward to getting off work because that means it's almost supper time. Now that I'm drinking these pre-op shakes for breakfast, lunch, and supper I have nothing to look forward to.  And once I have surgery on June 11th it'll be more of the same shakes. Even after pureed stage, soft food stage, and finally regular food stage, it's going to be a drastic change for the rest of my life. I'm giving up the one thing that really brings me joy. Eating. How do you cope with that? What do you do to fill that void? Wow. Now I'm sad.
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      On day 4 of the 2 week liquid pre-op diet. Surgery scheduled for June 11th.
      Soooo I am coming to a realization
      of something and I'm not sure what to do about it. For years the only thing I've enjoyed is eating. We rarely do anything or go anywhere and if we do it always includes food. Family comes over? Big family dinner! Go camping? Food! Take a short ride or trip? Food! Holiday? Food! Go out of town for a Dr appointment? Food! When we go to a new town we don't look for any attractions, we look for restaurants we haven't been to. Heck, I look forward to getting off work because that means it's almost supper time. Now that I'm drinking these pre-op shakes for breakfast, lunch, and supper I have nothing to look forward to.  And once I have surgery on June 11th it'll be more of the same shakes. Even after pureed stage, soft food stage, and finally regular food stage, it's going to be a drastic change for the rest of my life. I'm giving up the one thing that really brings me joy. Eating. How do you cope with that? What do you do to fill that void? Wow. Now I'm sad.
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      1. summerseeker

        Life as a big person had limited my life to what I knew I could manage to do each day. That was eat. I hadn't anything else to look forward to. So my eating choices were the best I could dream up. I planned the cooking in managable lots in my head and filled my day with and around it.

        Now I have a whole new big, bigger, biggest, best days ever. I am out there with those skinny people doing stuff i could never have dreamt of. Food is now an after thought. It doesn't consume my day. I still enjoy the good home cooked food but I eat smaller portions. I leave food on my plate when I am full. I can no longer hear my mother's voice saying eat it all up, ther are starving children in Africa who would want that!

        I still cook for family feasts, I love cooking. I still do holidays but I have changed from the All inclusive drinking and eating everything everyday kind to Self catering accommodation. This gives me the choice of cooking or eating out as I choose. I rarely drink anymore as I usually travel alone now and I feel I need to keep aware of my surroundings.

        I don't know at what point my life expanded, was it when I lost 100 pounds? Was it when I left my walking stick at home ? Was it when I said yes to an outing instead of finding an excuse to stay home ? i look back at my last five years and wonder how loosing weight has made such a difference. Be ready to amaze yourself.

        BTW, the liquid diet sucks, one more day and you are over the worst. You can do it.

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