Fed up

[jess9395 5,450]

Has anyone entertained the possibility that Shay might be a troll? Only this thread and two other posts, one voicing concern that one day a 3oz gain instead of a loss and the other asking how much loss could be expected by Christmas.

I could be way off base and if I am I sincerely apologize, but typically Legit rants come from people with a longer post history.

[OKCPirate 5,323]

This is an interesting topoic, which points to a larger problem - we don't know who asked "can I cheat/eat something not on program" akin to one that I hear often with alcohol etc.

I have seen videos of WLS failures who obviously went back to potato chips and high fat food. I think much of the touch love and goal shaming I see is a reminder to lurkers that "no you can't eat crap all the time." Yes we said "occasionally" but some of us think others are going to hear "it's OK, eat crap."

I don't blame the people on these boards who offer cautionary advise, it is a important reminder. One that often can't be echoed enough. But for the most part I have found the people here to be very forthcoming about their struggles, their successes and very encouraging.

We have a nice mix of caring nurturing types and tough love types. Between the two I think the message gets out to those who need to hear it. At least I hear it and appreciate it.

[TealSister 296]

I sometimes get offended reading responses. However if I step back and reflect, it's usually just a defensive reaction. If I am feeling guilty about a poor choice I have made and read a "shaming" comment, sure I get a little worked up. Taking a moment to think about WHY I find it offensive and where I am with my daily goals, most times I can come to respect the "offensive" comment and take away something useful from a vet. We are all on the same journey!