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Thank you for sharing. I just joined this forum because 10 months out from surgery and I recently had a 10 pd gain after 2 months flat-line. Basically in looking back I'm lucky that I haven't gained more as the beginning of my flat line was when I started doing little cheats and not exercising faithfully.

Those lifetime habits are so easy to slide back into and even if amounts eaten are still smaller for me carbs in equals wt gain.

But facing my choices and making a change was hard because of guilt and shame and feeling alone in this failure. It really helps to know that I am not alone in having a backward slide.

Just have to forgive myself and move on or I'll be stuck in blame land forever and not make changes I need to.

Thank you for sharing your difficult experience. It has motivated me and helped feel less alone.

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I've been struggling too and it's so helpful to come on this site to get back on track. I am 11 months out now, and I think what tripped me up was reaching the point where food was enjoyable again. For the first 7-8 months the thought of eating a lot of foods was really unpleasant, because I knew it would hurt my stomach. But all of the sudden I was healed enough and started eating junk here and there, and then it turned into a bit of a frenzy.

Everyone is right when they say that this is the hard part- pre-surgery brain is back in action, and I have to use the sleeve as a tool instead of a cure. I'm doing the 5 day pouch test, and it's already reminding me how hard I fought for the weight I lost (aka I despise Protein shakes). Thanks for threads like these and to everyone who is struggling. You really don't think you'll ever go back to your old eating habits right after surgery, but it's amazing how you can slowly slip, even if you realize it's happening.

We can do it!

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My mom used to say, the reason why erasers are on the end of pencils and now pens.......because people make mistakes. Keep moving! It was a bump. Make your surgery, your energy, and time count. Girl, you got 45 lbs to slay! Rrrrrrrh!

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So glad to hear from you guys ❤️ I'm still back on track and back to losing slowly. Which I am totally fine with!!! I just got back from the beach (where I RAN on the beach!!) i did sneak a hot and ready doughnut ☺️ but it was the 1st time in years and years that I didn't GAIN 5-10 pounds on vacation. Lol I actually lost 1!! I will take any neg number ???? I actually got pics of myself that I didn't feel like I had to hide ❤️ little things that are keeping me going!! Bring on my 1 year. I GOT THIS!

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So glad to hear from you guys ❤️ I'm still back on track and back to losing slowly. Which I am totally fine with!!! I just got back from the beach (where I RAN on the beach!!) i did sneak a hot and ready doughnut ☺️ but it was the 1st time in years and years that I didn't GAIN 5-10 pounds on vacation. Lol I actually lost 1!! I will take any neg number ???? I actually got pics of myself that I didn't feel like I had to hide ❤️ little things that are keeping me going!! Bring on my 1 year. I GOT THIS!

You go girl! Get it for you!

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I'm 7 months post op & have had no sugar. I was craving chocolate. Had a small chocolate bar & got it out of my system. Hopefully I'll go another 7 months before the craving returns. I walk & work out. Have lost 126 lbs. 74 more to go. If you fall off the wagon a lil just shake it off & get back on track. You'll be fine

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It's nice to see such positive comments and to see we are all human. One thing this experience has taught me is that freaking out over a backslide is more detrimental to my health than the actual backslide. I am a highly anxious person and will lose sleep over a single pound.

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Oh no!! Not me. I still want to live ❤️ just want to live healthier. I certainly don't think icecream or a doughnut is something to lose sleep over... Maybe a whole dozen. Or a 1/2 gallon of icecream. But if I don't have something every once in a while I get depressed. So I am fine with a little here and there. My main problem was I quit everything. Quit eating right, not exercising at all... And I am a clothing designer/seamstress. So I SIT at home for work. I HAVE to make gym time. Or I get Zero exercise. Easy to gain that way ????

But I sure LOVE my job/business ????post-239344-14376564430699_thumb.jpg

So making gym time it is!!

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Thank you for sharing. I just joined this forum because 10 months out from surgery and I recently had a 10 pd gain after 2 months flat-line. Basically in looking back I'm lucky that I haven't gained more as the beginning of my flat line was when I started doing little cheats and not exercising faithfully.

Those lifetime habits are so easy to slide back into and even if amounts eaten are still smaller for me carbs in equals wt gain.

But facing my choices and making a change was hard because of guilt and shame and feeling alone in this failure. It really helps to know that I am not alone in having a backward slide.

Just have to forgive myself and move on or I'll be stuck in blame land forever and not make changes I need to.

Thank you for sharing your difficult experience. It has motivated me and helped feel less alone.

You are definitely not alone! Forgiving oneself can sometimes be the hardest task. Like many who struggle with weight and food and body image, we were taught that if we were thin we'd be worthy. And that's so untrue. Even if someone is 1,000lbs, they are worthy of self-love and respect.

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I've been struggling myself i had my surgery in December of 2013 since then I've gained 30 lbs and it's so hard to get it off and I try but I don't try hard enough I feel like loser????

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