Jump to content
×
Are you looking for the BariatricPal Store? Go now!

Will I ever be normal again?



Recommended Posts

I had RNY on 2/25/15 and I feel great! However I find that I am frustrated with the food choices I have been given. Will I ever be normal again? Will I be able to go out to eat with my husband and have something resembling normal food. I know that the portions will be small, but I just feel do deprived. Not of sweets of even carbs, Just normal regular food. Like a baked potato, or a banana, Does this get better as time goes on? Please tell me it does!

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

Not sure what stage you are on but I am two days behind you and just moved to soft foods. Salmon, tuna, omelette,black bean Soup, crab meat..a few of the things I have had of will have tomorrow. These are foods I enjoyed before. However my " Normal" would have been very large servings with buttered down potatoes, bread and tons of whatever carb I could get. I am electing to not indulge in carbs such as potatoes even though it is allowed.

Perhaps you need to be a bit more creative with cooking or just simply patient until you get to the next phase. Hang in there.

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

I'm 5 months out and it does get a bit better.....but I have to say, I still don't really have any enjoyment in eating anymore. It's now purely for nourishment. Going out to eat does get better. My stand by meal I get mostly is either grilled chicken or grilled fish and a small baked potato. (of which I eat about 1/3 of) The big problem is, you don't really know how these things are prepared. So a lot of times, I still end up nauseous because of added butter. ( I can't handle butter at all anymore) So eating out just isn't quite the same. But it's a continuous learning process to see what foods you can tolerate and if you can find something at your favorite restaurant that sets well, take advantage of that! :)

But it does get easier as you advance in your diet. ;)

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

Amylynns ... Although I haven't eaten out yet I previously lost quite a bit of weight and kept it off for several years. I had to become quite assertive when eating out. I would ask how things were prepared...if the waitress didn't know I would ask her to find out. I would ask for things special ordered ...or sauces on the side etc. most places will ablidge and the ones that didn't were scratched off my list as choices. Just the other day when ordering a Decaf coffee with soy the barista asked me, sort of, if vanilla soy was okay...she was almost pouring it in my coffee. I stopped her as I know vanilla has a higher sugar content. We have to be proactive.

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

I have been eating normal food since week 7, I am 5 months post op and have lost 72% of the excess weight (80 lbs). I have 30 lbs to go!

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

Depends on what "normal" is. No, you won't be able to eat everything you used to eat. That's what got you here. But, you will be able to have a wide variety of food that can taste great.

If you prefer breads and pastas and pizza, that sort of thing, then you are not going to be doing that anymore. But stick with lean Proteins, some veggies, a small bit of carbs/grains and you are good. Luckily, you can't eat as much anymore anyway.

Get a bariatric cook book--they are filled with tasty recipes!

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

Yes, it DOES get better !! Had RNY bypass surgery on 12/15/14 and have lost 66 lbs post op and 40 pre-op. I don't get the same excitement out of going out to eat like I used to but that is because I used to over eat each time we dined out. Now I just eat a small amount of food and usually just have a healthy appetizer or a salad or pick a little bit of food off my wife's plate. But I feel liberated by not feeling as though I'm a slave to food any longer. Focus on getting your Protein in first at each meal and you'll have success. I had no problem tolerating eating a small baked potato and bananas as well about 6 weeks post op. Take it slow and introduce new foods slowly to see what you can tolerate. Good luck !!

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

I had surgery 9-29-14. I still can't eat meat. I am not sure if it is mental or physical. I had an upper gi. No stricture. I am having an endoscopy next Friday. I can only eat salads at restaurants. I can't do any bread, I get dumping or throw up. I am on a very limited diet. It sucks. I don't get sick from candy or Cookies. I am so mad. My md said everyone is different. It makes me mad. I love chocolate and cookies.

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

You will be a new "normal". Were you normal before if you ate so much that you needed this solution?? And you may not eat certain things NOW; but you will be able to later. I'm 12 years out and there's nothing I can't eat. You just need to be smart and not eat so much. And going out? I went out 3 days after surgery as my sister needed to eat. I ordered tea and hot Water with which I made broth with a bullion cube. No body batted an eye. You can also ask for sugar free Jello or broths. Potatoes, bread, pasta; you'll be able to do it later. JUST NOT NOW!!

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

Create an account or sign in to comment

You need to be a member in order to leave a comment

Create an account

Sign up for a new account in our community. It's easy!

Register a new account

Sign in

Already have an account? Sign in here.

Sign In Now

  • Trending Products

  • Trending Topics

  • Recent Status Updates

    • vsg.with.sharon

      Hey everyone!
      I’m new here! Looking for some friends! 🥰
      · 0 replies
      1. This update has no replies.
    • LeighaTR

      Four days post surgery. I am sipping as fast as I can and getting NO WHERE near the goal of 60 - 80 grams of protein or the 64 oz of liquids. I just feel FULL. I don't know if it can still be the gas build up (I would think by now that would be gone) but it is a struggle to drink. And so far I have not had the nausea or spasms and don't want to wander into that territory by pushing too hard with liquids. I about passed out today as it was my most "strenuous" day. Went from second story to basement for shower and I was sure I was going to pass out. Looking back on my last few days I have had a total of less than 1000 calories. Am I just not getting enough nourishment in me? Once again a friday where I can't get ahold of the doc until Monday rolls back around so I am hoping maybe someone here has some experience on how to keep energy going. I do have fibromyalgia too and that may be where some added fatigue comes into play. How did you all fair with the goals the week after surgery?
      · 0 replies
      1. This update has no replies.
    • Doughgurl

      2 days until I fly out to San Diego to have my Bypass Surg. in Tiajuana Mexico. Not gonna lie, the nerves are starting to surface. I don't fear the surgery itself, or the fact that I'm traveling alone, but its the aftermath that I'm stressing about the most, after this 8 week wait. I'm excited to finally be here, but I am really dreading the post surgical chapter. I know its going to be tough, real tough and I think I'm just in my head to much now that the day i here. Wish me luck, Hopefully I'm one of the lucky ones, and everything goes smoothly. Cant wait to give an exciting update,. If there is anyone else have a June bypass or even a recent one, Id love to have someone to compare war stories with. Also, anyone near San Antonio Tx? See ya soon with the future me. 💜
      · 3 replies
      1. Phil Penn

        Good Luck this procedure is well worth it I am down to 249.6 lb please continue with the process..

      2. Selina333

        I'm in Houston so kind of near you and had the sleeve in Dec. Down 61 lbs. Feeling better. Was definitely worth it. I hope the everything is going well for you. Update us when you can!

      3. Doughgurl

        I am back home after my bypass surgery in Tiajuana. I'm post op day 4. Everything went great! I guess I'm one of the lucky ones who have not encountered much pain at all, no nausea thus far and I'm having no problem keeping down broths and water. Thank you for your well wishes. I cant wait to keep up this journey and have a chance at better health and simply better quality of life. I know there will be bumps in the road ahead, and everything won't be peaches and cream, but at least I have a great start so far. 😍

    • LeighaTR

      I am new here today... and only two weeks out from my sleeve surgery on the 23rd. I am amazed I have kept my calories down to 467 today so far... that leaves me almost 750 left for dinner and maybe a snack. This is going to be tough for two weeks... but I have to believe I can do it!
      · 0 replies
      1. This update has no replies.
    • Doughgurl

      Hey everyone. I'm new here so I thought I should introduce myself. I am 53y/o and am scheduled for Gastric Bypass on June 25th, 2025. I'm located in San Antonio, Texas. I will be having my surgery in Tiajuana Mexico. I've wanted this for years, but I always had insurance where bariatric procedures were excluded. Finally I am able to afford to pay out of pocket.  I can't wait to get started, and I hope I'm prepared for the initial period of "hell". I know what I have signed up for, but I'm sure the good to come will out way the temporary period of discomfort and feelings of regret. I'd love to find people to talk to who have been through the same procedure or experience before. So I look forward to meeting you all. Hope you have a great week!
      · 2 replies
      1. Selina333

        I'm so happy for you! You are about to change your life. I was so glad to get the sleeve done in Dec. I didn't have feelings of regret overall. And I'm down almost 60 lbs. I do feel a little sad at restaurants. I can barely eat half a kid's meal. I get adults meals often because kid ones don't have the same offerings at times. Then I feel obligated to eat on that until it's gone and that can be days. So the restaurant thing isn't great for me. All the rest is fine by me! I love feeling full with very little. I do wish I could drink when eating. And will sip at the end. Just a strong habit to stop. But I'm working on it! You will do fine! Just keep focused on your desire to be different. Not better or worse. But different. I am happy both ways but my low back doesn't like me that heavy. So I listened (also my feet!). LOL! Update us on your journey! I'm not far from you. I'm in Houston. Good luck and I hope it all goes smoothly! Would love to see pics of the town you go to for this. I've never been there. Neat you will be traveling for this! Enjoy the journey. Take it one day at a time. Sometimes a few hours at a time. Follow all recommendations as best you can. 💗

      2. Doughgurl

        Thank you so much for your well wishes. I am hoping that everything goes easy for me as well. We don't eat out much as it is, so it wont be too bad in that department. Thankfully. Also, I hear you regarding your back and feet!! I'd like to add knees to the list. Killing me as we speak! I'm only 5' so the weight has to go. Too short to carry all this weight. Menopause really did a doosey on me. (😶lol) My daughter also lives in Houston. with her Husband and my 5 grand-littles. I grew up in Beaumont, so I know Houston well, I will be sure to keep in touch and update you on my journey. I may need some advice in the future, or just motivation. Thank You so much for reaching out, I was hoping to connect with someone in the community. I really appreciate it. 💜

  • Recent Topics

  • Hot Products

  • Sign Up For
    Our Newsletter

    Follow us for the latest news
    and special product offers!
  • Together, we have lost...
      lbs

    PatchAid Vitamin Patches

    ×