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Got told by a coworker today that I'm taking the "easy way"



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You know the next time you see a person with a flat tire and you stop to see if they need help. Just think what they would say if you said... "If you use a compressor to fill that tire up you are doing it the easy way. YOU should just put your mouth on the valve stem and blow!" There are many ways to add or remove things and you have made an educated personalized plan for success. Let them blow their tire up anyway they want. Friend the proof is in the pudding. Be healthy and fit!

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In this world there are some (a lot of?) people who think they know all there is to know about almost any subject. They tend to be black-and-white thinkers who think there's a single correct way to do things and reject all other approaches as "wrong." They feel almost religious about the superiority of their right way vs. others' wrong ways.

Trouble is, they're hard-wired to think and act in this manner. In my experience, you can't reason with them or expect that that sharing your experiences with them will expand their perspective. They like the simple way their minds and lives are ordered and feel stressed at the prospect of having to change their minds. I'm not even sure they can change their minds.

It can be tough on both single-perspective people and multiple-perspectives people who have to work or live closely together.

Needless to say, this human attribute is not categorical, but a matter of degrees.

Easy to tell which group I fall into, eh? ;)

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Commenting on weight changes in an employment setting often is considered sexual harassment. By and large, it happens to women (making sexual comments about their bodies) but not in all cases, as we can see. If there is no sexual nature to the comments, it's just plain old harassment, which also is illegal: http://www1.eeoc.gov//laws/practices/index.cfm?renderforprint=1

This was hit home to us in a recent HR training. The overall message was to not make any comments about anyone's body, period.

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I am exactly one month out of my surgery (RNY) and if this is what anyone calls "easy" then I must be crazy!

I needed to do this for health reasons (many of them) and NOT to fit in a bikini...

Both my daughters were adopted, and I heard comments like this about our choice to adopt. We had it easy....no labor, morning sickness, or stretch marks.... REALLY???

6 years of infertility, medical testing and procedures, mountains of paperwork and studies to be approved. 13 month wait to be united with our daughter... not to mention over $25,000 and a 2 week trip to China to pick her up.

Easy? HELL NO!

Worth every bit? HELL YES!

I feel the same way about this journey... it is what is right for ME, and that's all that matters!

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