Not sure if this is "normal". I've only been out of the hospital a couple days and wondering if this was the biggest mistake I've made. I'm feeling so frustrated and discouraged. I'm scared of leaks and the unknown. I keep checking to see if I have a fever. I feel warm but no fever seriously having panic attacks. Please tell me it will get better and when (roughly) I can look forward to that.

So are you actually having problems or just imagining them? Why are you feeling frustrated and discouraged?

If you are just having panic attacks you may need to call your doctor and get something for anxiety.

I don't think I am. As stupid as it sounds. I think they are all the normal aches and pain but for some reason I'm so scared of something going wrong or never having a "normal" life after. I know some things have to change but I just wanna feel normal. I'm a chicken to begin with. Obviously it's been only a couple days and I'm nervous about everything. The only problem that I did have was that orig I was scheduled to have the roux en y but due to a hernia on my belly bottom they opted for the sleeve.

What aches and pains are you having?

Not sure if this is "normal". I've only been out of the hospital a couple days and wondering if this was the biggest mistake I've made. I'm feeling so frustrated and discouraged. I'm scared of leaks and the unknown. I keep checking to see if I have a fever. I feel warm but no fever seriously having panic attacks. Please tell me it will get better and when (roughly) I can look forward to that.

I felt that way for the first two weeks after. I was miserable. It got better. Give it time. You just had surgery. A significant one at that. Give yourself time. Rome wasn't built over night.

@QueenieB Calm down. Trust me, I know what you mean. I am 7 days post op. I was in regret mode the minute I got wheeled into my room in the hospital after surgery. I felt like I did something terribly to hurt myself as punishment for being fat. How can I do this to myself, blah blah blah.

It will subside, I promise. I am okay now...everyday it gets a little better. Do I wish I can have a nice big plate of food like by boyfriend does? You bet! But then I remember how miserable and shameful I was before and you know....you get over it. You really do. With time, your belly will heal and you will be able to increase your food intake a little more.

Think of your stomach as being a newborn baby tummy. Brand new and you have to nurse it, teach it, and take care of it.

Keep in touch.

U just got out three days...and ALL this is new to u take it easy...Did they not do a leak test at the Hospital?...and if so why are u thinking about leaks?...WE all have those moments esp when i was released from the hospital...I kept wondering how will i do this but after the second or third night at home i wise up real quickly....and u will to...calm down this moment to shall pass...

Thanks everyone. I'm so nervous. Trying to go day by day. Thank you for all your messages. It is so comforting.

I felt the exact same way and still do but less so 4 weeks out. It's normal, you are not a lone. Pm me if you need support.

IT DOES GET BETTER!!!! I was such a wacko immediately post op. I was terrified of eating and drinking. It went away and I eventually got over my fears. Hang in there!