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Ok so im new here, but i was banded dec 19th. After yrs of failed weightloss.

I had began to feel ok with my overweight, i had been stuck their, so i ll be honest, i gave up. I was just tired of failing diets and what not.

Turning back for me. The birth of my 2nd child my son in july 2013. During labor my heart was too stressed. Post labor bp started. So my dr sent me to the cardiologist. Heart issuses began. At my age 27? No. He said you need to lose weight. Uh well i tryed. But in Mid may i had a er trip that got me scared. Then my knees.

My dr talked to me about banding surgery. I gave some thought, finally in oct i went in to a seminar. My insurane does 3 months, 100% covered. So i signed up i knew all the risks and my therapist helped.

I was banded dec 19th 2014. I told only my mom and husband. Some how everyone already knows. I lost 30lbs so far. Im still sore at the port. My dr does 2wks pre op and 4wks post op liquids. Im soo done with liquids. I almost cryed the other day. I had a down day. But 7days post op i did a trip to the er. Thanks to a car trip. My stiches opend a bit. My Vitamins, mineral were low, dyhydrated. My brother called to brag about his weightloss, how he was able to do it alone, I just feeling like a quiter.

Did i give to soon on diets? Should i of tryed harder? Just 2nd guessing. My hubby supports me all the way and told me to be proud its not easy to do what i did. Anyone else having down moments?

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Breathe. You've made a lifesaving choice. You've been through so much and you're still healing and OMG the liquids are hard. I was on liquids for six weeks. You can do this.

Please cut yourself a break and be gentle with yourself. This is a healing process. But I guarantee that once it settles down and the weight starts coming off and you are able to move better and be more active, you will be so happy with your decision.

We are here for support. My life has returned after walking around dead for decades.

Congratulations. You've chosen life.

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Relax sweetheart. We've all been where you are. This is very new for you still and it will take time for you to get in the zone and work your band to it's optimum. You said yourself you've done diet after diet and it didn't work. Don't worry about your brother because I guarantee he'll gain it back....and you won't.

Surgery is not the easy way out, it's not cheating. In fact, what's easy about trips to the ER that you have experienced. Nothing, right!

Hang in there...come here for support....talk to your doctor and nutritionist. They are there for you...make sure you use them.

Good luck and keep us posted on your progress.

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Thanks. I feel better today. I realize this is not easy. Specially having to cook for a 3yr old and a 1yr old. But it will be all worth it when i can run and play with them for more then 5 min. When i can go to the dance with the hubby and not just sit there...

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I was feeling the same way and we had are surgeries around same time, and also had to take trip to er 2 days after surgery and ended up in hospital for 4 days. I found myself very emotional and listening to negative thoughts. I think we're just emotional from the surgery and from being sick. Doing a lot better though and know I have made the right decision and this isn't an easy thing to do. Keep it up and it will pay off in the end

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Thanks. I know this is not easy. I feel better about my choice. Better saggy skin then overweight with all my illness.

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The veterans have said it all, I am fairly new too, but I am happy I made the decision! And you will be too! It takes some time to get the "hang" of things.....just give yourself a break and it will happen!

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