100 lbs down and the unfortunate random things I've learned plus a few NSVs!

[KeeWee 470]

*First is my MAJOR scale victory, I am 100lbs down as of Sunday. Hw 290, Sw 282, Cw 190 from a size 20/22 to a size 8/10. Shoe from size 9W to an 8 regular.

*I no longer snore at all, which is big for me since it recently started and was so loud and disruptive to both my family and I. Now, nothing at all, they say im so silent they wonder if im breathing. I sleep so much better and more comfortably.

*Also, the late night cravings have gone away and I never wake up at night anymore so no more late night snacking.
*I no longer have pain from my Fibromyalgia and have stopped my medications completely!!!! I hate meds!!

******Sad to say that I have had serious negative responses to "MY LIFE" decision, here are some of the daggers in my heart...

-I've had family tell me, I didn't need the surgery, I was pretty enough even though I was "BIG"! As if I am so vein that I would do something so serious to my body just to look good...smh

-I was told, "I don't like this on u, it's not YOU, you're not meant to be this small"...SMH

Then, "I could never make myself sick every day just to look good". WAH? Who's that, I'm not sick at all...uneducated speakers make me wanna vomit if that's what u mean...UGH.

-another family member, "don't lose no more, we have enough crackheads out here, wouldn't want people to get the wrong idea". WTF???

THEN THE ABSOLUTE WORST OF ALL.....

-My husband threw me a big party when I hit my first goal of 200lbs. I invited all my favorite girls to a Glam Session to do makeovers and a photo shoot (my first pics public photos other than on BP) as a girls night but also as a celebration of my successes since at that time, I had also gotten a raise at work (Which is also suspect), a new luxury apt and a new car. I struggled over 2 years to gain these things from a 1 bedroom box apartment and no car to the new life that my hard work paid for. Do you know one friend was heard saying, "Why she gotta show off, now she think she something special because she lost weight, who's gonna shrink her head?" This hurt me the most because my husband offered me anything I wanted to Celebrate and all I asked is that he treat me and my girls, 17 of us to catered food from Carrabbas (My Fav), dj for the room, make up sessions with Mary Kay, we had a pure romance presentation, a man that was selling jewelry to enhance our look and a photographer to document the whole evening and take personal photo shoots as well, all this at no cost to them and this man made that happen just to celebrate me and my accomplishments and I was extremely thankful beyond belief but also so hurt by not only the person making the comment but the 4 that entertained her, 2 by saying, "that's alright, when she fall, she gonna fall hard" "she got a new 2014 car but just asked me for $60 bucks just last week, she's a phony" -this was when I lost my bank card and had to wait for another and she was with me so I asked her instead of calling my husband. Lesson learned!

Basically I learned that people are not always who you think they are. Thank God I did what I did for me and not to impress anyone or seeking anyone's approval. I am happy with my decision and since I've noticed that ppl seem to be down for you as long as you stay down in life...on their level perhaps but the minute you move up, now your not good enough for them. I have since been uninvited to 4 events and the excuse was, " Oh I thought You'd be busy or traveling" REALLY? I was suppose to be celebrating but I literally cried for 3 days. Beyond the gains (materials) and the losses(weight), I thought I had support. I learned an ugly lesson that day and here's some I wish to pass on...

Make your moves for YOU!, Seek only approval from YOU! Make sure you have a true support system. Then my daughter sent me a comment picture that reads,"Don't dim your light simply because it's shining in their eyes" That's for you too. Be positive and don't let the haters tear you down.

I don't have a positive relationship with my family, been on my own since 16, so these women have always been around but now that I can't even share my life losses or gains with them...my husband is taking me away from it all, no more pain, no more tears, no more haters, we are moving to California, his home town and I will make new friends and hope and pray to share a good life together. He even says we will renew our vows so I can get a new dress vs the size 26 I had to wear in Jamaica. After 18 years, we will renew our vows in Santa Monica!!! Haven't told any of them yet but I bet they act like they care... but they probably don't and who cares, I'm over it!! It will be a last minute goodbye and an AWESOME 2015!!!!

I am happy and I will continue to be, I could have uplifted others but I will reach out to the real ones and help bring them up and we can pray together for those too busy hating on others to ever come up in life!! Good riddance to em'...

Love you guys, needed to get that out!! Thanks, whew!

[VSGAnn2014 12,992]

Good grief! Those are some nasty bitches you treated to a lovely party. Pure dee out jealousy is at the core of that evil coven.

You're absolutely right -- ultimately, these changes we work so hard for are for ourselves, not for others.

You're fortunate that your husband is 100% supportive. That's a priceless advantage.

[BeagleLover 1,020]

Luuuuv your daughter's comment! Glad to hear you'll be living in another galaxy! Nobody needs this!

[skinnygirlwithin 693]

I have learned this very hard lesson myself. Sadly it was with two co-workers i thought were my very good friends... turns out i was the only one being a friend. I had no idea that losing weight would cost me friends... CRAZY! But your daughter is so right - dont dim your light!!

It totally sucks & i am not going to lie & say it doesnt hurt... casue there have been many days where i have gone home crying... but i never let them see me down.

Wish you best of luck in your new life!!!

[Healthy_life2 8,330]

@@KeeWee

The people that can't be supportive say's more about them. You have so much to Celebrate in 2015. Live it up, celebrate and keep you're amazing supportive family close.

[MrsB2007 90]

Sounds like pure jealousy!! Youre obviously turnin heads in a positive way and theyre not. So sad that these are "adults"

Edited December 9, 2014 by MrsB2007

[Essence46 493]

Those heffas!!!! Anywho... so glad you are not dimming your light. Keep letting your light shine for the world to see. Congrats on your 100 weight loss.

[emsgirl114 88]

First off, congratulations. 2nd your husband is a gem. 3rd..Jealous b•••hes. Keep doing what you are doing. This is for you and your life, not people who turn on you at what's suppose to be a happy occasion!

[FairySleeve 297]

Oh My! glad to hear that you're moving away from those toxic people.

From your story, you life right now seems to be perfect and people should be jealous of you lol especially you have such a loving husband, that's must have burned their heads!!

I'm pretty blessed to have a few girlfriends who can tell me sincerly that they're jealous of me to my face and they're also sincerely happy for me. I wish you a happy new life in the new town and hope you can find better and more sincere friends.

By the way, congrats on your successful on weight lost and new life.

[daniellemarie82 4]

Wow! Can we say jealously? ?? You go and do you and f the rest. Times like this you really see who's there for you.

[KeeWee 470]

Thank u all so much. Didn't wanna tell anyone how bad it hurt. Just kinda been to myself and at home for the past few months and enjoying that as well. They do notice I have less to say but i waste my breath for no one. My sadness is mixed with anger. I always knew I would finally make things happen and thought I could spoil the people to death that was around me when I had nothing...I so badly wanted to show my appreciation for them being there while I was in school but maybe they thought I would never get anywhere? IDK but i'm trying to shake my sadness and you guys are keeping me smiling so thank u all very much for everything!!

[Paloma68 31]

Reading your story makes me so glad I didn't tell anyone. Good luck and stay positive!

[IcanMakeit 1,319]

Some people are so self-involved and jealous, they never learned how to be a friend. I pity them, but I'm happy that you have such a wonderful husband and things are looking so positive for you. You don't need those petty witches with a b.

[Laurac727 92]

Heck w them! Wow ! U r great and look beautiful and inside n out. That man loves u and that shows who really knows n loves u! And your daughter. Head up move on, life moves forward. Karma gets ur back! Stay wonderful n beautiful cause real people w brains are showing u how wonderful u are!

[Inner Surfer Girl 12,015]

Sounds like you need a better class of friends.

Your husband and daughter seem to know how lucky they are!