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To the man that has stood beside me through all of this!



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37 years today I married my husband Roy. He has stood beside me through everything I have experienced in this world. The good days the bad. The good times and not so good times. The heavy times and the thin times. And just when I thought it could not get any worse. He stood beside me through the last 14 years of hell with my mental health as well as my physical health.

I want to thank him for the last two years mostly as I have tested his strength and love more then any woman should. But he was there almost every day accept 4 or 5 at my bed side encouraging me to move forward. 5.5 months he came and held my hand, rubbed my feet and combed my hair. He had a regular routine he did to help me get through it all. He kept the extreme Hair loss from me so that I would not know how bad it all was. He even read me Moby d**k. Which I had read before but did not tell him....lol The staff at the hospital said they had never seen a man like him. I am sure they are out there and if you are then the woman who has your love is fortunate to be sure.

He cried with me. Smiled with me and never let me think I would not make it. For this I am truly thankful. He made me fall in love with him all over again. As I continue to fight the many complications I can see the pride in his face when people say nice things to me. I have seen him break down in tears as he relives the last 2 years. And I have seen the worry he shows for the next upcoming procedure.

Last night he told me not to worry that this was a positive surgery. One that will make things better for me....I love him for thinking that and never giving up.

Thank you and much love your way!

Jane

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@RJ'S/beginning I know you have been through a lot, but us newbies might only be picking up bits and pieces of it. Have you written out your story? Could you point us to it?

Love your post. Happy Anniversary to you and your wonderful hubby :)

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I only wish BP had a love button instead of just a like button for your post. Thank you for sharing. You are both amazingly wonderful people.

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What a lovely picture of the two of you...happy and looking healthy !!! <3

37 years...so wonderful.

My wonderful Wayne and I have been together 10...married for 2 on 12/12... he is my light as well...always there for me; it's a wonderful amazing thing... especially, if you are like me, and feel you don't deserve a man like that ;)

Congratulations and good luck on all things ahead...

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@RJ'S/beginning I know you have been through a lot, but us newbies might only be picking up bits and pieces of it. Have you written out your story? Could you point us to it?

Love your post. Happy Anniversary to you and your wonderful hubby :)

No I have not written out every detail. That will take a book which I am destined to write. But I have written a lot about my experiences in the hopes of helping others be educated and maybe benefit from what I have gone through. Esp. those who have dealt with a lot of complications...

Thank you for your well wishes :)

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congratulations! we all want a love story like yours.

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This is so sweet! What an amazing man! My husband is amazing too, he is my everything!! Thank god there are at least 2 of them out there!! Loved this post!

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Wonderful testimony to a true love story.

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How precious. I too have a wonderful man like that. Your story reminds me to thank God for him even more often. Bless ya'll!

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There is nothing in this world better then a hubby or family. those that stand beside you and understand why you are who you are and are okay with it. I am truly blessed and happy to know that there are others out there who enjoy the same experience.

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What a wonderful tribute to a wonderful man! Congratulations and continued happiness in your life together!!!

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I, too, have a wonderful husband. You need someone to go through the good, the bad and ugly! More wishes to many more!!

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Don't know u but congratulations on just the 37yrs with unrelenting love! Uve seem to found the proverbial "needle in a haystack" wow!! Keep moving forward. I'll be saying a prayer to find myself a wonderful husband like this some day!!

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Don't know u but congratulations on just the 37yrs with unrelenting love! Uve seem to found the proverbial "needle in a haystack" wow!! Keep moving forward. I'll be saying a prayer to find myself a wonderful husband like this some day!!

Every woman needs a good no great man beside her. I loved this quote!

To love is good, too: love being difficult. For one human being to love another: that is perhaps the most difficult of all our tasks, the ultimate, the last test and proof, the work for which all other work is but preparation.

Rainer Maria Rilke

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Happy anniversary to you both! He is an amazing person and I am so happy that he has been there to give you the love and support to get you through these passed few years of your surgeries and difficult times. Sending him a virtual hug to thank him for taking care of "our" RJ. ????

PS you two are sooo cute!

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