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Since my surgery my wife has who has the LapBand has gained 30 lbs and keeps telling that I'm going to get skinny and find a new woman.

It's like she was happier when I was overweight and diabetic.

Anyone else get this from there spouses?

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That's unfortunate that she has such issues with her own self confidence. I strongly recommend counseling before it gets out of hand and you alienate each other :(

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If she has a band ... yet she is afraid that you will walk off after YOU loose weight ... she has a real problem being insecure. The good part of that is that she shared her insecurities with you. That shows trust between partners.

IDEA: You might suggest that the reason YOU got bariatric surgery was that YOU thought SHE would walk off on YOU because she was looking so good! Maybe that would make her laugh at how silly the both of you can be, and what a perfect couple you are. You even share the same neurosis!

You could say that she was your inspiration and that you wanted to loose weight so you would be in good shape to pop other men in the nose when they flirt with her because she is so slim and beautiful. Tell her she is beautiful every day of your life.

Just a couple of thoughts. But I also think talking these things through with a professional would be helpful.

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I am single, but pre-op and now, I seem to get comments from people telling me that I'm gonna get all skinny and forget about them. So ridiculous!!!

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Having this issue, wife was insecure before my surgery.

Counseling hadn't helped.

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