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So far 7 weeks post op and 43 lbs down. Have had a bit of mood swings. Feeling sense of failure, support network is struggling a bit some feel I should be farther along, doctor says Im doing very well. Not too sure if it is normal, if so any coping mechanisms?

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I am a newbie but 43 lbs in less than two months sounds amazing. Try to stay positive.

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I have good days and bad days. I think I'm more aware of it now (vs. pre-op). I have my 3 month follow up in two weeks. I hope I'm on track, lol.

I think since it's not so new and exciting to those close around us, it's more "business as usual". The support is there, but it's not like it's talked about like it was in the beginning. I found the monthly support group meeting was re-invigorating. Looking forward to next months meeting.

I also feel like I should be further along, but have to come to understand that I probably was a little ambitious with my expectations. 11 weeks and down 18 lbs. (47 overall). I really can't complain!

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When you are losing weight that quick your hormones are stored in your fat cells. You lose fat cells and you tend to be emotional or moody. It's quite interesting how our body acts as a coping mechanism to this great big change in our life. I find myself tearing up with things that would never bother me before.

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When you are losing weight that quick your hormones are stored in your fat cells. You lose fat cells and you tend to be emotional or moody. It's quite interesting how our body acts as a coping mechanism to this great big change in our life. I find myself tearing up with things that would never bother me before.

That's exactly how I feel. ????

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I was an emotional basket case. My body panicked and my mind ran with it. Somewhere in that emotion is the reason we turn to food in the first place. This is a window to the spiral. Observe it as objectively as possible so you can strategize as to how NOT to feed it when it comes creeping back.

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I am emotional too. I tear up at the craziest things.

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Sorry, bit of a derail here, but ... the title of this thread makes me giggle: "Anyone dealing with emotional issues?"

Yes. Everyone is dealing with emotional issues. Every day. All the time. It's part of life.

Sorry. Carry on.

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5 days post-op and today has been the worst. Im pretty sure I have cried all day. I'm moody and not interested in drinking anything today. I also have been off of my anxiety medications since the day before surgery. It has been a real rollercoaster. Signing up here and knowing I'm not alone has been a great deal of help. I told myself to stay busy or watch Netflix. Either way...this will pass.

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Lacyms hi I'm still pre op so I haven't had this experience yet but wanted to show some support I'm sure all of us are going to have some emotional days during this process after all it's a major life change and huge overhaul so to speak of our body's and if u are not on medications you were used to that probly contributes to what your going thru everyone here always says it gets better everyday so hold on to that and u can always vent here ! Hope u feel better

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Lacyms hi I'm still pre op so I haven't had this experience yet but wanted to show some support I'm sure all of us are going to have some emotional days during this process after all it's a major life change and huge overhaul so to speak of our body's and if u are not on medications you were used to that probly contributes to what your going thru everyone here always says it gets better everyday so hold on to that and u can always vent here ! Hope u feel better

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Haha. I think I messed that up. Thanks, shellyd88! Good luck to you :)

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