Questions you do NOT ask people who have had bariatric surgery (or frankly, anyone):

#1) are you supposed to eat that?

2) are you eating too much?

3) is that all you're going to eat?

4) Any good buffets we can go to around here?

And I wish they'd stop asking how we're eating and how much weight we've lost every time they call. I wish they'd just mind their own business. I will volunteer this info if/when I feel like bringing it up but I have a life and its not centered around what I eat.

Sorry for the vent. One set of my in laws (the ones I can't stand) are visiting and these are some questions they've asked. #1 question really irks me.

How do YOU respond to questions like these? How do I make them stop asking? I know they are just curious but I don't ask them what they've eaten that day or ask them how much they've eaten our make comments about how much or what they are eating or if he's eating heathy with his health issues...... you know?

I know it is annoying but they are both curious and concern, The best way to handle the question is to say directly, "I know you are only concern and well meaning BUT it would help me if you didn't ask me questions about my diet or weight."

In the alternative answer the questions with as little information as possible - do not invite conversation by answering with long explanations;

#1) are you supposed to eat that? YES
2) are you eating too much? NO
3) is that all you're going to eat? YES
4) Any good buffets we can go to around here? YES, BUT I WON'T BE GOING.

That is the very reason I told no one and kept my business mine. Then u can offer what information I feel comfortable eith. Good luck it will get easier.

My husband has been doing the "you can't eat that" and I am 4 months out. Granted I have only been eating solid foods for a few weeks now and still introducing new foods to see how my new pouch handles it. While it annoys me and I have to remind him to please stop monitoring my food I am glad he is involved and concerned for my health so I can't be too mad at him.

I would keep your reaponse positive but short and don't give them the option to rebuttal.

Good luck!