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[auntiemel 275]

So my sister flew in from vegas to see me and hang out with me for a few days while I'm recovering and my hubby and her went to the bar tonight...which I was ok with, but when they didn't show back up til 3:30 in the morning I was pissed!

Neither of them called to check on me or see how I was doing. I was told I could have called them. Am I being irrational? I feel so abandoned. My sister didn't even say anything to me, went outside and when I left to drive around the block (I was too tired to go any further) she went inside and when I came back she was gone...I guess a friend picked her up to go get food.

I just feel like I don't matter.

[Mrs. Reid 392]

Well, you posted this topic, so I guess you are looking for a response. Here is mine: Did your sister come to see you? Or did she come to see you husband? It sounds to me that she did not come to take care of you, she is looking for a cheap vacation to have a good time.

Saying you could have called is blaming you for their indifference. What if you had passed out? What if you had fallen? Become disoriented? You are recovering from surgery! They are supposed to be looking after YOU!

If this had of been me, I would have sent sister packing right away. I would continue my recovery but soon hubby and I would have to have a talk...he should not have even considered going out to a bar when you just had surgery. Is he really the man for you? Your life is about to change in a lot of ways. My motto when it comes to dealing with people: Don't make anyone a priority if all you are to them is an option. Your weight is not the only thing that is going to change.