Overwhelmed

[happymama2014 206]

So I made it to my last appointment. The NUT required us to bring our Vitamins in. The first thing she does is look to see if we have it all and sure enough I had two of the wrong things. (Kaisers list is specific and extensive). I have spent hours and lots of $$ and made so many trips to diff places looking for the right stuff...I felt like such an idiot.

I just fell apart. If I'm to stupid to figure out the pills they want me to buy how am I going to do this. I've emailed the NUT several times asking questions and I asked about the ones specific for bariatric patients and they said no. I left in tears I felt like such a failure! I was so upset I could not continue with the class. My last visit had just been wasted and I knew I had to reschedule.

The NUT says maybe you should talk to the psychologist about your feelings. I was mortified! I just don't know how to get it right

I changed my surgery date now from Oct 2 to Nov 6 so I can try to get myself together. I sure wish the NUT had more heart instead of saying " I have people doing it everyday " it can't be that hard:(

Now my surgery isn't happening as planned because I've lost my confidence.

[BitterSweet* 835]

You haven't lost confidence. You are flawed like every single one of us. Your mistake regarding the correct Vitamins is not the likely cause of her suggestion for you to discuss things with a psychiatrist; your reaction likely was.

You are not perfect today, nor will you be tomorrow or the next day. You are going to make mistakes; that is natural. Even once you have surgery, the learning curve is hard. It takes some figuring out, trials (and mistakes) before you sort of work out exactly what and how much your new stomach can handle.

Breathe. Calm yourself as best you can. Become more patient and open to corrections from the professionals trying to help you. I know you must feel like a circus animal jumping through all these hoops, but it has been done before and can be done again. You can do this. Regroup and get back to to it.

[alwaysvegas 702]

Your nutritionist should be sympathetic to everyone s/he is consulting. The amount of new information is overwhelming for all of us. It sounds to me like the nutritionist does not know how to present information that's easy to absorb or at least reference.

My nutritionist provided a presentation AND pages of Vitamins that she approved and where we could buy them and combine them. Even then, I made a mistake, but she was very understanding.

I would put in a complaint about the nutritionist directly to the surgeon and remind them that you are paying THEM to provide YOU a service.

Edited September 19, 2014 by AlwaysVegas

[CowgirlJane 14,261]

Over the years I met with many different NUTS and the only good one was the one who I was blessed to have on my sleeve journey. They are not all awesome. Nobody thinks you are incompetent, I agree she probably feels concerned about your emotional state. Its a very emotional time, I remember it well. Don't lose faith in yourself, you can do this.

[VSGAnn2014 12,992]

You can do this. You really can. You're smart. And this is all going to be OK for you.

WLS is just a big damn deal. It's a lot to confront -- the feelings, the fears, the information.

I really do understand. You're going to be fine.