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Aspring424    76

Aspring424
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So they called me today and i have obstructive sleep apnea....I would of never thought..... I'm a lil sad.. Like how did i get to this place? How did i get so fat? My BMI is 48.. How did this happen???? I am 35 yrs old. I feel old..why? All these emotions came from that one call.. I really feel sad.. I know having co-Morbidities will help you get approved..but Idk how I feel about all this... I was so excited to get this started now I feel like what else do I have?? I don't really talk to anyone about it..cuz everyone feels like i can do it without surgery...They don't get it.other than my husband and my twins... I'm not telling anyone..but they don't really get it..they are not over weight. I'm feeling lonely right about now..and this is the only place I can let it out........ Fat girl Struggles

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mi75    1,241

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been there. i had many people tell me i could do it without srugery. yet the more i tried, the fatter i got. and the sicker i got.

sleep apnea will help you get approved, and if you lose like you WILL, it will be cleared up and gone in no time! just look at this negative piece of news as a MOTIVATING factor for WHY you really need to do this!

hang in there and post as you need to. best thing i EVER did. good luck!

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finediva    979

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Well you let it out my love. You feel old? You are 35 and have your best years ahead of you. I so wish this was around when I was 35. I spent my teens, twenties, thirties and forties obese. You have a chance not to do that. Go with the process to achieving better health. BTW, your sleep apnea would likely improve once you have lost some weight. Blessings.

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bikrchk    1,313

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I too, spent my CHILDHOOD, TEENS, twenties, thirties and most of my forties obese. Feel like I'm making up for lost time now having a second childhood! The older you get the worse the weight related health problems get. You still have a lot of life ahead of you and you'll get to live it as a healthy person! best gift ever!

Well you let it out my love. You feel old? You are 35 and have your best years ahead of you. I so wish this was around when I was 35. I spent my teens, twenties, thirties and forties obese. You have a chance not to do that. Go with the process to achieving better health. BTW, your sleep apnea would likely improve once you have lost some weight. Blessings.

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teshadb    203

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This is the best thing I could have done for myself. I had the band in 09 and had nothing but issues until I decided to revise to the sleeve. I had to fight the insurance for it but I won! My PCOS is resolving ( i want kids) ... Big reason for having the surgery. I can stand for longer periods of time without my knees and hips hurting. I walk faster, I don't need naps, stairs are easier. I'm not out of breathe walking to my car from the store or my job. I can eat like a skinny person and feel full. I can eat a salad for the first time and be full and not need something else with it. It's freedom. I wouldn't change a thing except doing it back in 2009 if it was an option back then. Good luck to you.

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finediva    979

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@bikrchk. How long did it take you to get to your goal?

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Mia83    17

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I can so relate. I'm going through the process and found out I have diabetes. I go get my sleep apnea results tomorrow (mixed emotions ) ! Hang in there friend, you 're not alone.

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lovelytrl    162

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I know how you feel when others just don't get it. Hoping you get approved and you can be on to the new and exciting next chapter.

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      I am new here today... and only two weeks out from my sleeve surgery on the 23rd. I am amazed I have kept my calories down to 467 today so far... that leaves me almost 750 left for dinner and maybe a snack. This is going to be tough for two weeks... but I have to believe I can do it!
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      1. Selina333

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        I'm so happy for you! You are about to change your life. I was so glad to get the sleeve done in Dec. I didn't have feelings of regret overall. And I'm down almost 60 lbs. I do feel a little sad at restaurants. I can barely eat half a kid's meal. I get adults meals often because kid ones don't have the same offerings at times. Then I feel obligated to eat on that until it's gone and that can be days. So the restaurant thing isn't great for me. All the rest is fine by me! I love feeling full with very little. I do wish I could drink when eating. And will sip at the end. Just a strong habit to stop. But I'm working on it! You will do fine! Just keep focused on your desire to be different. Not better or worse. But different. I am happy both ways but my low back doesn't like me that heavy. So I listened (also my feet!). LOL! Update us on your journey! I'm not far from you. I'm in Houston. Good luck and I hope it all goes smoothly! Would love to see pics of the town you go to for this. I've never been there. Neat you will be traveling for this! Enjoy the journey. Take it one day at a time. Sometimes a few hours at a time. Follow all recommendations as best you can. 💗

    • Alisa_S

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      On day 4 of the 2 week liquid pre-op diet. Surgery scheduled for June 11th.
      Soooo I am coming to a realization
      of something and I'm not sure what to do about it. For years the only thing I've enjoyed is eating. We rarely do anything or go anywhere and if we do it always includes food. Family comes over? Big family dinner! Go camping? Food! Take a short ride or trip? Food! Holiday? Food! Go out of town for a Dr appointment? Food! When we go to a new town we don't look for any attractions, we look for restaurants we haven't been to. Heck, I look forward to getting off work because that means it's almost supper time. Now that I'm drinking these pre-op shakes for breakfast, lunch, and supper I have nothing to look forward to.  And once I have surgery on June 11th it'll be more of the same shakes. Even after pureed stage, soft food stage, and finally regular food stage, it's going to be a drastic change for the rest of my life. I'm giving up the one thing that really brings me joy. Eating. How do you cope with that? What do you do to fill that void? Wow. Now I'm sad.
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      1. LeighaTR

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        I hope your surgery on Wednesday goes well. You will be able to do all sorts of new things as you find your new normal after surgery. I don't know this from experience yet, but I am seeing a lot of positive things from people who have had it done. Best of luck!

    • Alisa_S

      Alisa_S

      On day 4 of the 2 week liquid pre-op diet. Surgery scheduled for June 11th.
      Soooo I am coming to a realization
      of something and I'm not sure what to do about it. For years the only thing I've enjoyed is eating. We rarely do anything or go anywhere and if we do it always includes food. Family comes over? Big family dinner! Go camping? Food! Take a short ride or trip? Food! Holiday? Food! Go out of town for a Dr appointment? Food! When we go to a new town we don't look for any attractions, we look for restaurants we haven't been to. Heck, I look forward to getting off work because that means it's almost supper time. Now that I'm drinking these pre-op shakes for breakfast, lunch, and supper I have nothing to look forward to.  And once I have surgery on June 11th it'll be more of the same shakes. Even after pureed stage, soft food stage, and finally regular food stage, it's going to be a drastic change for the rest of my life. I'm giving up the one thing that really brings me joy. Eating. How do you cope with that? What do you do to fill that void? Wow. Now I'm sad.
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      1. summerseeker

        summerseeker

        Life as a big person had limited my life to what I knew I could manage to do each day. That was eat. I hadn't anything else to look forward to. So my eating choices were the best I could dream up. I planned the cooking in managable lots in my head and filled my day with and around it.

        Now I have a whole new big, bigger, biggest, best days ever. I am out there with those skinny people doing stuff i could never have dreamt of. Food is now an after thought. It doesn't consume my day. I still enjoy the good home cooked food but I eat smaller portions. I leave food on my plate when I am full. I can no longer hear my mother's voice saying eat it all up, ther are starving children in Africa who would want that!

        I still cook for family feasts, I love cooking. I still do holidays but I have changed from the All inclusive drinking and eating everything everyday kind to Self catering accommodation. This gives me the choice of cooking or eating out as I choose. I rarely drink anymore as I usually travel alone now and I feel I need to keep aware of my surroundings.

        I don't know at what point my life expanded, was it when I lost 100 pounds? Was it when I left my walking stick at home ? Was it when I said yes to an outing instead of finding an excuse to stay home ? i look back at my last five years and wonder how loosing weight has made such a difference. Be ready to amaze yourself.

        BTW, the liquid diet sucks, one more day and you are over the worst. You can do it.

    • CaseyP1011

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      Officially here for a long time, not just a good time💪
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