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I had my surgery on January 13th, prior to the surgery I had lost 13 pounds on my own, after the surgery I lost an additional 35 for a total of 48 pounds. that was over 3 months ago, I have no lost a single point since. I know I have heard of stalls but three months? I am so discouraged right now and having such a hard time dealing with it all. I met with my dr in june when it first started and he said we would talk about it at my next visit which is not until September 9th but by then it will be over 3 1/2 months and no weight loss. I have tried more food, less food, Protein shakes...then no Protein Shakes. I go to the gym 4 - 5 times a week I just don't know what to do

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Are you keeping a food journal? Everything you eat and when and how many grams of Protein? Are you drinking all your Water?

I have had many stalls and they are devastating so I understand what you are going through. The things that my nut and others on here have told me are:

-- keep a daily food journal (don't know why but it actually works)

-- drink your Water

-- eat Protein every couple of hours (or drink protein). I tend to have a yogurt for Breakfast, a hard boiled egg for a snack around 10, chicken with some raw veggies for lunch, cottage cheese for mid day snack (when I can remember), and then lean protein for dinner with some veggies if I can get them in. I can't always follow this perfectly but that is what I"m trying to do.

-- make sure you are getting around 60-80 or so grams of protein.

-- count grams of protein, not calries

-- exercise (which is sounds like you are)

-- stay off the scale! (yeah, I know. tough one)

Are your clothes fitting better? That's a better measurement of how you are doing.

Best of luck and check back in with us after a bit.

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Hi I have to agree with the above statements write down your daily intake of all food, I use myfitness pal it's assume, get in all of your Protein daily and make sure your drinking 64 ounces of Water daily . Good luck.

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I was pretty good about keeping a journal until mid july, the summer got the better of me and I stopped but I just started again this week. I do try and get all my Protein in each day, Water I am decent at I could be better but I get at least 30 - 40 oz in a day. I have not gained any weight this summer, but I also have not lost. I don't feel like there has been any change in my clothes either and I am just so discouraged now

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@@joy3551 hang in there, I will be a month post op tomorrow and I have literally been at a stall for 3 weeks, so I totally understand your frustration, but I decided to put the scale away and continue to follow your nut and doctors advice. Continue to believe in yourself and you will see results....

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Your Fluid intake is probably only 1/2 what it should be. You should be getting at least 64 ounces, more like 80+. Are you using a tracking program that lets you know how much your burning compared to your calorie intake. If you use fitnesspal.com it can help you to see what works for you and what doesn't. I found that I do better with a more rounded diet leaning heavily on Proteins. When I reintroduced veggies (salads), I noticed that my stalls broke. You need to always be totally honest with yourself, without that your "tool" won't work.

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I was using my fitness pal pretty faithfully until about six weeks ago, like I said I was just busy this summer and let it go, I picked it up again this week. As for vegetables, I just have a hard time getting everything in, there is only so much you can eat and they are always telling you Protein first

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