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Tomorrow is surgery day for me! It seemed forever getting here and now it's almost time. When I look at myself in the mirror tomorrow morning it will be the last time I see that same person. Will I miss him? I don't have any regrets, I've had a lot of good times with family and friends, eaten a lot of good meals, never really paid a heavy price for my overindulgences. But obesity is a slow killer, it takes its toll on the joints, heart, and overall health. The damage that's been done is done, I can't do anything about it now but I can do something about the future. I have to take responsibility for my health if I want to live life to the fullest in my remaining years. So, I'll easily say goodbye to the "me" of my past, and I won't really miss him because the new me isn't careless about life, a new sense of respect for my body and optimism. What do you think you'll see in the mirror on that day?

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Like you I to have been able to live the last 20 year's of my life overindulging with the only downside being that I was Fat, No other health related issues so it never really seemed like that big of a deal. I'm only 24, So that may be the only factor I have in being a healthy fat person (If there ever was such a thing) is my age and I feel as though if I don't address it now then later on down the road I'll run into health issues eventually. That and my insurance is willing to pay the bill now so why wait!

Not sure how I'll feel the day of, But I'm ready to start the process and get my life underway..

Good Luck!

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Vince and Halloween....say bon voyage to the old you and embrace the new, healthier, and thinner you that is coming. Between my obesity and mobility issues, I was like someone in jail. No freedom at all.

Today, I can move normally again and I fit everywhere. I move like a thin person...I don't rumble and jiggle down the street anymore. I move and everything moves with me...not against me. Life is good again and you are both lucky to start this process before your health was negatively impacted. Good luck to you both.

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Behind the eyes and the smile of the person in the mirror is someone I love. Someone I know well, respect, admire. I know her strengths. That person will always be in the mirror.

Behind the body of the person in the mirror is someone who has been in my life for a long time. I know her struggles and insecurities and worries and weaknesses. She shows them to the world in unspoken ways. She has served her term in the mirror and has started the journey away. I let her go with love.

Thank you gowalking, you are right. We will soon find out.

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You'll LOVE LOVE LOVE it! GUARANTEED! Enjoy the new you, before you know it, the pounds will melt away. Good Luck!

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Hell no. And I hope she gets the message that I've disowned her and she's never welcomed back. Lol!

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I lived my entire life as a big guy, being almost 7 months out I'm down to around 180 lbs and every time I look in the mirror or try on clothes I can't believe how far I come, I workout just about every day and enjoy it, I have a whole new outlook on life and changed my eating habits for the better.

Best of look to you and I wish you much success.

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@Fullofitx3: believe it! You are living it! Way to go! Woot, woot!

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I kept saying that I look like myself again!

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I don't really see the person in the mirror now (pre-op). I only seem to see my eyes. It is too hard to believe that the rest of that person is really me. It's only in photos that I see myself truly.

I am looking forward to connecting with myself in the mirror post-op!

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I'm always surprised when I see my reflection in a full length mirror. I don't feel fat. But my reflection says differently.

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I'm always surprised when I see my reflection in a full length mirror. I don't feel fat. But my reflection says differently.

Hence, the old saying, we see what we want to see.

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I will not miss the person in the mirror. Far too long I looked in the mirror and was not happy with what I saw. I saw nothing but fat, fat, fat and I used to express that to my hubby. You know its an issue if you make fun of yourself and your spouse has to hear this, SMH. I was pre-diabetic 4 months back, had HBP since 2004, I have arthritis in both knees and lower back and I have mild sleep apnea. All this at the age of 39. I started to eat right and got my but off the couch and moved for at 30 minutes per day. After the surgery, I will continue to push myself to get to a healthy weight and where I am comfortable, God Willing. I don't want to come back to this unhappy place or person again.

With 5 children and a husband, it gets busy around here and I tend to neglect myself, my body. Not anymore, Not anymore!

I CAN DO THIS, WE CAN DO THIS!

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