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Just got my surgery date!! 9-10-2014 I will be sleeved and let me tell you, it can NOT come soon enough.. I am tired of ALWAYS being the BIGGEST one in the room!! I am tired of being on 9 different pills twice a day and being so sick from the meds :( last year I was diagnosed with diabetes and depression set in big time. I was so angry at myself and so angry at the world.. I only exist in life I am not living.. Smaller, thinner family and friends with no health issues don't understand.. They don't get blown off by society or have a hard time finding clothes that fit. I don't go anywhere with friends nor do I attend family functions.. I know I shouldn't care what people think or say but when it's people you love and car about that are saying it, it hurts.. Just last night my younger sister and step day now mind you I am 40 and she's 15 said they couldn't help but think of Honey Boo Boo's mom June when they look at me.. I was mortified!! I am not sleeping myself because I think it will make me "prettier" I'm sleeping for my health.. I don't know why that's so hard to understand.. Needless to say my family isn't all for this sleeve and my friends just tray they are jealous .. Does anyone else deal with a crappy support system and how can I make my family and friends understand that I just want them to be happy that I will be healthier????

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First let me say welcome to the forum! You will find lots of good folks with lots of good experiences to share. Congrats no having a date! I'm still working through the insurance requirements. I imagine it would be very difficult not to have the support of the ones closest to you...but realize...you are not alone! You have us now!

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Congrats on your surgery date!!! I know how you feel. Im the biggest in my family and hate going to family functions. I have just started all my preop testing and hope I get a date soon.. We will be just fine!!! Think positive and let's do it!!!

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Sorry I didn't finish my post, but you will have to find support elsewhere.. Like on these forums! I started an Instagram page for my surgery journey and all of the people that I follow are soo supportive. I really believe once you start your journey, your family and friends will come around. Once they realize how much happier you are! Good luck to you! I'm tmarie40nfab_sleever on Instagram if you want to follow me!!

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Thank you all sooo much :) I am extremely excited to be here! You all are so informative and so sweet to one another! I am lucky to have your support :)

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Hi...so my sleeve surgery is set for tues. I am on day 7 of my 9 day preop liquid diet. I can say it has been a rough week with headaches, diarrhea, sleepy and grouchy. sometimes I feel like my best friend has died. however I keep telling myself I can do this. only 2 more days...then a new life will begin for me. just wanted to say how I am feeling and see how everyone else has felt

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You have got to do what is best for you.. I weighed 500 lbs and was sleeved on 6-18-2014. I am 8 weeks post op and already lost 90 lbs. We on this forum is a support group. I have no regrets about having it done. Good luck and praying for you... Hugs from Alabama...

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I am the biggest in my family too. I agree, they don't understand.

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I didn't tell anybody in my family except my husband because I wasn't sure if they'd be supportive or not and I didn't want to deal with the potential negativity on top of having the surgery and the lifestyle change. But there are a lot if really great and supportive people here in the forums, and I hope that helps you at least a little.

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    • Doughgurl

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      1. Phil Penn

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      2. Selina333

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      3. Doughgurl

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    • Doughgurl

      Hey everyone. I'm new here so I thought I should introduce myself. I am 53y/o and am scheduled for Gastric Bypass on June 25th, 2025. I'm located in San Antonio, Texas. I will be having my surgery in Tiajuana Mexico. I've wanted this for years, but I always had insurance where bariatric procedures were excluded. Finally I am able to afford to pay out of pocket.  I can't wait to get started, and I hope I'm prepared for the initial period of "hell". I know what I have signed up for, but I'm sure the good to come will out way the temporary period of discomfort and feelings of regret. I'd love to find people to talk to who have been through the same procedure or experience before. So I look forward to meeting you all. Hope you have a great week!
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      1. Selina333

        I'm so happy for you! You are about to change your life. I was so glad to get the sleeve done in Dec. I didn't have feelings of regret overall. And I'm down almost 60 lbs. I do feel a little sad at restaurants. I can barely eat half a kid's meal. I get adults meals often because kid ones don't have the same offerings at times. Then I feel obligated to eat on that until it's gone and that can be days. So the restaurant thing isn't great for me. All the rest is fine by me! I love feeling full with very little. I do wish I could drink when eating. And will sip at the end. Just a strong habit to stop. But I'm working on it! You will do fine! Just keep focused on your desire to be different. Not better or worse. But different. I am happy both ways but my low back doesn't like me that heavy. So I listened (also my feet!). LOL! Update us on your journey! I'm not far from you. I'm in Houston. Good luck and I hope it all goes smoothly! Would love to see pics of the town you go to for this. I've never been there. Neat you will be traveling for this! Enjoy the journey. Take it one day at a time. Sometimes a few hours at a time. Follow all recommendations as best you can. 💗

      2. Doughgurl

        Thank you so much for your well wishes. I am hoping that everything goes easy for me as well. We don't eat out much as it is, so it wont be too bad in that department. Thankfully. Also, I hear you regarding your back and feet!! I'd like to add knees to the list. Killing me as we speak! I'm only 5' so the weight has to go. Too short to carry all this weight. Menopause really did a doosey on me. (😶lol) My daughter also lives in Houston. with her Husband and my 5 grand-littles. I grew up in Beaumont, so I know Houston well, I will be sure to keep in touch and update you on my journey. I may need some advice in the future, or just motivation. Thank You so much for reaching out, I was hoping to connect with someone in the community. I really appreciate it. 💜

    • Alisa_S

      On day 4 of the 2 week liquid pre-op diet. Surgery scheduled for June 11th.
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      1. LeighaTR

        I hope your surgery on Wednesday goes well. You will be able to do all sorts of new things as you find your new normal after surgery. I don't know this from experience yet, but I am seeing a lot of positive things from people who have had it done. Best of luck!

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