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I was just over at OH and learned that if you start a thread, you can have the mods remove any post that you want removed, even if there weren't any rules broken. That makes no sense to me. The whole point of a message board is to get multiple points of view on topics. If you want to hear only your own point of view, why join?

So I just want to thank the guys that run this place for being great moderators. You guys make sure that the peace is kept without going too far and squashing any opinions. You only close threads that are obviously beyond hope of redemption and you don't delete posts just because someone else doesn't like them. So, kudos to you! :clap2::biggrin1:

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That does seem an odd rule if there's any pretense at all to being an open forum. We inadvertently used to allow a similar thing, by letting people delete their own posts. That's fine in principle, but if they delete their own thread-starting posts, they end up deleting the entire thread. And that's not fair to everyone else who posts in a thread. That's why here people can only delete their OWN posts, not entire threads.

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Apparently, you can only be a contributing member of OH if you always agree with everyone else and never post anything that can be taken even remotely offensively. To me, it totally defies the whole point of a message board. Don't like a certain person? Have all replies that they've made to your threads or posts deleted. Someone disagreed with you? Have their post deleted.

The whole thing is stupid. To top it off, apparently lots of folks there are 5th graders in disguise. They are always screaming, "You're attacking me!!!" whenever someone slightly disagrees with them. Heck, they yell that even when people DO agree with them and try to offer suggestions. "You're calling me a bad mother!!!" was a thread-starter's response when someone said that she needs to stop giving her runaway daughter privileges.

I go over there every so often, and then I always get so pissed at the childishness that is so common there. I just come running back over here, where it's sane.

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Yeah, I am on a cat forum, and the debate/heated thread, there was a lot of controversy about mods pulling posts. Initially anything 'offensive' was removed, until they sorted out and realized mods shouldn't step in like that. It's a forum for everyone's opinions, etc.. and I don't like mods that try to regulate and make things one sided. I am new to the off-topic debates on this forum, so good to know they don't step in ;)

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The OH forum sounds very, very boring. Life is more interesting when there is a variety of view points.

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Yeah, I am on a cat forum, and the debate/heated thread, there was a lot of controversy about mods pulling posts. Initially anything 'offensive' was removed, until they sorted out and realized mods shouldn't step in like that. It's a forum for everyone's opinions, etc.. and I don't like mods that try to regulate and make things one sided. I am new to the off-topic debates on this forum, so good to know they don't step in :)

Oooh, I love cats!;)

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Originally Posted by lauraj23 viewpost.gif

Yeah, I am on a cat forum, and the debate/heated thread, there was a lot of controversy about mods pulling posts. Initially anything 'offensive' was removed, until they sorted out and realized mods shouldn't step in like that. It's a forum for everyone's opinions, etc.. and I don't like mods that try to regulate and make things one sided. I am new to the off-topic debates on this forum, so good to know they don't step in grin.gif

How does something become offensive on a cat forum?

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How does something become offensive on a cat forum?
It's too easy, I just can't do it. :censored:

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laurend- because like here, they have a section off --A forum for (non-cat related) mature discussions, issues that may be sensitive and spirited debates. Topics may include subjects such as politics, religion and current events. If you are easily offended, please be advised.

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And so far, there's been a lot of discussion about republicans vs. democrats, global warming, etc.

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Lauran...

In the case of OH I support their decision to do this.

Remember SandyR? The PITA lady? She follows people around and nags them, insults them, she does more for LBT than any other single person because of the sheer number of people she drives away from OH and to LBT.

Since OH won't do what other forums do and kick her butt out of there they have to give members some sort of ability to deal with her (and her coven).

A member need only request another member not post in their threads or directly to that member again. If the other member continues doing that then the post can be removed. It's the only way to keep the PITAs in check since OH doesn't do their jobs as mods.

I really hate that forum, there is nothing I like about it. The format sucks, the people are essentially made up of newbies that don't know better or the old-timers are folks that were kicked out of every other forum. It's just a horrible place to read posts. If there is a topic that is even slightly political, it's deleted. If there is the least bit of debate, it's history. However brow beating, nagging, insulting, slamming... with those you are good to go.

Everything there is designed to be all sweetness and light from a bunch of nasty, bitter, creepy, throw aways from other forums. IOW, it plain doesn't work.

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I come to both sites, for motivation more than support. Plus if I can answer a question for a newbie (here or there!) I am happy to do so.....I dont consider myself a "nasty, bitter, creepy, throw away" though, lol. Any site will have some people that stir that pot, or are controversial, or whatever. I take what I need and ignore the rest.

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Yeah, I am on a cat forum, and the debate/heated thread, there was a lot of controversy

Yeah, but remember, debates about cats in heat can be very controversial.

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:thumbs_up::wave::Banane43::thumbs_up::)Bubble you always crack me up!

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