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I am doing this publicly because I feel like I deserve a little public humiliation at this point. I am apologizing to everyone that I sent an overly negative reputation message to. I can't excuse what I did, but I can explain why. I had recieved a message that I felt was particularly nasty. I was hurt and angry and I decided to "share the love", so to speak. In the clear light of day, after I've had time to cool down, I realize that what I did was in very poor judgement. So, feel free to berate me, scold me, bash me, whatever you feel is necessary. I sincerely apologize. I let my hurt and anger get the best of me. I may not agree with all of you, but I really do respect you as people.

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Laurend, if your apology pivots entirely upon the blood sports in which we routinely engage on Rants & Raves, then I certainly should offer my own apologies for my quick temper and my tendency to rely on my potty mouth.

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...I would like to believe 'what happens in Rants STAYS in Rants'....

Apology accepted.

:boy_hug: Ditto for me. Although I don't recall being at the receiving end of any post of yours...

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Ya never went off on me...but hey, we all act out of our hurt sometimes, but few of us recognize when we went too far. Good for you for taking responsibility for your words and apologizing. I'm sure everyone will give ya a break...just this once hehe :)

On another related note, for this very reason, I sure am glad that the "rep points" thing was removed relatively quickly. I mean, most obese people (me included) have very raw emotions and getting "bad" reviews isn't exactly supportive (and usually not constructive). Most of us already suffer with feeling judged by thin people...we should feel safe and free from being "rated" on a support forum. JMHO :)

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On another related note, for this very reason, I sure am glad that the "rep points" thing was removed relatively quickly. I mean, most obese people (me included) have very raw emotions and getting "bad" reviews isn't exactly supportive (and usually not constructive). Most of us already suffer with feeling judged by thin people...we should feel safe and free from being "rated" on a support forum. JMHO happy.gif
Especially when you have views that aren't exactly popular with some people. That's why I got attacked, anyway, and had my feelings hurt enough that I lashed out. Several people apparently decided to punish me for my political views and were hurting my "rep-power".

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Yah, the rep power thing could have become very weird.:rolleyes: All the lefties could have ended up with negative rep, eh.:heh:

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Several people apparently decided to punish me for my political views and were hurting my "rep-power".

Doing something like that because of political views is petty and outrageous.

I got some negative reviews on some of my posts too, from conservatives, and I received no apology.

So I really can't blame you for fighting back.

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On another related note, for this very reason, I sure am glad that the "rep points" thing was removed relatively quickly. I mean, most obese people (me included) have very raw emotions and getting "bad" reviews isn't exactly supportive (and usually not constructive). Most of us already suffer with feeling judged by thin people...we should feel safe and free from being "rated" on a support forum. JMHO :)

I'm glad that was removed. I assumed they were just fixing another bug and it would be back.

I believe I received one bad one, another nurse felt I shouldn't disagree with the opinion of another. I'm thinking she didn't think that one through first. :)

Lauren, you are great. Everyone loves you and if they don't, well they are just stupid. :P

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Several people apparently decided to punish me for my political views and were hurting my "rep-power".

Doing something like that because of political views is petty and outrageous.

I got some negative reviews on some of my posts too, from conservatives, and I received no apology.

So I really can't blame you for fighting back.

I apologized to you! <grin>

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Laurend me and you we are on different sides of the fence. but you are smart and I do'nt blame you fo being mad. We all get there some times.

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Laurend me and you we are on different sides of the fence. but you are smart and I do'nt blame you fo being mad. We all get there some times.
I try to respect everyone's opinion, even when I don't agree with them. That's why I never even considered using the rep-power thing to get back at people until they had already used it against me. I had just never occured to me to punish someone for their political beliefs. It makes me sick to think that I sank to that level. I learned a valuable lesson from it, that even though I may respect other people's opinions (or at least think that they have the right to express them without being punished), it doesn't mean that they respect mine. What bothers me the most was that I let that realization affect me to the extent it did.

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Well, I support your political beliefs, but the real point is that in this country, we should be able to voice our beliefs without having people rant at us. I think this guaranteed by the Constitution. But some folks don't think the Constitution applies these days. I think it does. So screw those folks. Don't get your feelings hurt. You are standing up for the Constitution. I'm going to bed now.

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You have been nothing short of wonderful and have responded to my questions with sincerity and knowledge. So what if you went off a little-"sticks and stones---------" Put it behind you and go on with the good.

Fran

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Well, I support your political beliefs, but the real point is that in this country, we should be able to voice our beliefs without having people rant at us. I think this guaranteed by the Constitution. But some folks don't think the Constitution applies these days. I think it does. So screw those folks. Don't get your feelings hurt. You are standing up for the Constitution. I'm going to bed now.

The Constitution that says you have free speech, that you are claming is the same right we have to "rant" it is also free speech!

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The Constitution that says you have free speech, that you are claming is the same right we have to "rant" it is also free speech!

No it isn't.

Free speech has to do with dealing with the gov't. When on a privately owned message board or piece of property, you do not have any rights to free speech.

It would be like my coming over to your house and using your house for my free speech that everyone must eat 10lbs of sugar and carbs daily. Do I have that right?

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