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Hello. I am almost five weeks out from my surgery. (I mine on june 4th).I have alot of questions. And I seem to doing something wrong. I could use some advice.

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I am a bit over a year out (RNY 6/25/13). I have lost 205 pounds and am currently at my goal weight. I would be happy to help you in any way I can. What are your questions?

Carol

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I will more than happy to help you as well.

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Thank you, my questions are : how long does it take until I stop feeling sick or getting sick? I moved to soft texture foods now and I cant stop getting sick. I think I am doing everything right but now I wondering.

Second question. Can you stop tolerating certain foods?

I am also exercising and doing my Protein but it feel like I am not doing enough. I get real tried. Or real sore. Is that normal after all this time.

I hve many more but I will wait to ask them.

I have gone to my doctor and they say that my blood work is all good. I am also dealing with acid reflux. And I get depressed real bad.

I dont know what I could be doing wrong.

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Five weeks is not a lot of time, you are still healing. Are there any foods you are tolerating well? I certainly hope so. Stick with those for a day, then add in only one new food each day. This should help you determine what food or foods are not working for you. That way you can avoid those for now. It is also vital that you eat slowly, you may be getting sick because you are eating too fast. I know folks that actually use a clock and only take one bite every 30 seconds. Finally, small bites are also critical. I know it looks and feels silly, but use baby spoons and forks. No bite of food you take should be bigger than your fingernail.

If you are getting sick with every meal you are probably not getting your Protein which would lead to you feeling tired and not healing well. You must get the Protein in order to heal. Vitamins and Water are also critical to the healing process. Do what you have to to get those things in.

As to exercise, keep it light for now. Walking is best for most of us, but also some light weight training is really good for you too. You don't need actual weights. Soup cans work great, look online for exercise ideas, there are tons.

Feel free to ask more questions.

Carol

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Oh k thank you. I will try that. I eat with baby spoons. But sounds like I might be eating to fast. Didnt know I was suspose to wait inbetween bites. Thank you so much

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I hope it helps. It's not fun to crappy for weeks at a time. Anybody would start to feel depressed. Just know that it is all part of the journey and it will be worth it in the end!

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I am dealing with depression real bad. I feel lile I am losing weight. And thinking about things. I am seeing doctor tomorrow with some test results. But I am still feeling sick. So wonder is it possible that body changed with foods that I cant take putting it into my belly?

I eat real slow. Watch what eat.take me about hour to finish eating. Two to drink

Is this normal? Feeling this way ?

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It is very possible that your body has and will continue to change with the food that you are able to tolerate. That is why it can be very helpful to limit your diet to foods you know you CAN tolerate well and then add just one food a day back in, so you know what is making you feel sick. The doctor may be able to help as well since the test results might give you more answers.

One question for you - are your BMs regular? This is something that I have struggled with. Constipation can make you feel sick as well and is VERY common, especially in the early weeks and months following surgery. Even now, if I don't go for a couple days, my stomach does not feel well.

Finally, your depression should be evaluated. This journey is very emotional, with many highs and lows. You may need medication to help you with your depression. Make sure that your doc knows that you are struggling. They should be able to help you with this.

Feel free to keep the questions coming. I am here. :)

Carol

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