So I have been on my pre-op journey since November 2013 and have been working slowly towards getting my requirements done. I have finally finished everything and was given a date of August 18, 2014. As I'm preparing for my surgery date and getting business in order for the hospital stay and care during my days out of work, I've realized that I haven't told many people about my up and coming surgery. My mother knows, a friend who has had her own successful journey knows, and maybe 2 or 3 other people know and I really have no interest in telling anyone else about it. I was wondering if anyone else has dealt with the issue of being almost secretive about this process and if it was intentionally kept quiet or if it just wasn't a big deal to be discussed?

Edited July 14, 201412 yr by CrystalJae

You'll have to keep all your stories straight, but here are some possibilities:

1. Recovering from food poisoning

2. Post-gall bladder surgery limited diet

3. Doing a liquid diet

4 Doing a post-liquid diet diet

5. Cleansing diet

6. Taking medicine that requires you to limit what you eat when

7. Testing for food allergies

8. Discovered GMOs are in all fast foods and all restaurant foods and will never eat those foods again!

9. Converted to [Religion no one has ever heard of] and can only eat full meals after sundown

10. Have become a Breatharian [hey, google it!] and are now living on light and air

Whatever your story, commit fully to it.

I have not told one person that I am going to have surgery. This is very personal to me and it is very emotional.

I'm doing it for me. I know I will see some weight loss from pre-op preparations, and will need to explain why I'm not eating much for lunch or out for drinks. The timing is pretty optimal as the occasions are at a minimum. Those in my life have seen me lose weight, they've seen me gain weight. I think some are totally rooting for me, and others expect me to fail (again).

And what they don't know, they cannot judge. I'm optimistic the results will speak for themselves.

I told close friends, co-workers and family members. I feel that in keeping this surgery a "secret" it shows that there is shame in having to have this surgery. People don't keep their knee and hip replacements a secret so why should we feel that we have too? We have this surgery to be healthly and get a better quality of life! I understand certain people are private, but I would never be dishonest to any person whom asked me how I was successful. You never know, you may be an inspiration for someone to start their journey!!

I had a friend who had a sleeve and had huge complications. But... She is an attention seeker too. She Didn't call her dr when she had problems. She didn't stick to her diet correctly, and made it into abHUGE drama.

So when I mentioned I was thinking about it, my friends all said " I wouldn't recommend it" ( based on ......?? Your experience?) or " look what happened to B***" or " I bet I could get that weight off you" and oh you don't look that bad.

Well, as my blood pressure climbed, my cholesterol soared, my blood sugar skyrocketed, I said " I don't want to die like my mother!"

I told a few people but after a while just said I was having hernia surgery.

Afterwords they all found out because I had to go to ER ( I used to work there)

My boss said oh are you having the same troubles as ****?

Um...... NO

So at this point if anyone says anything I'll just smile and say " thanks for your opinion"

If anyone wants to be a WLS missionary, knock yourself out.

I'm not telling anyone!

You'll have to keep all your stories straight, but here are some possibilities: 1. Recovering from food poisoning 2. Post-gall bladder surgery limited diet 3. Doing a liquid diet 4 Doing a post-liquid diet diet 5. Cleansing diet 6. Taking medicine that requires you to limit what you eat when 7. Testing for food allergies 8. Discovered GMOs are in all fast foods and all restaurant foods and will never eat those foods again! 9. Converted to [Religion no one has ever heard of] and can only eat full meals after sundown 10. Have become a Breatharian [hey, google it!] and are now living on light and air Whatever your story, commit fully to it.

I laughed so hard at this! @@VSGAnn2014

If anyone wants to be a WLS missionary, knock yourself out. I'm not telling anyone!

Flatlined! WLS missionary lol!!!

Edited August 13, 201412 yr by waitingtoexhale

I have been telling everyone I meet for the past 3 months! I just saw my gardener and he gave me a shout out on my countdown to Sept 16th and offered to take care of my garbage and pick up groceries until I can drive and pick things up.

All of my clients know because I have to close down my business for two weeks. My entire extended family is on board and I have a Facebook thread where 67 friends & Family "liked" my surgery announcement and then offered all kinds of support.

What is amazing to me is that folks seem really encouraging and truly interested in the whole deal. I am like a fun science experiment for my social circle!

I told God and everybody. I want accountability. I also don't want people asking over and over what I did. I am not a overly-sharing person. I did not put that on Facebook though, only people I see regularly. Facebook is only getting the results.

I am kind of in the middle on this. My close family know and are supportive. I have told a few people at work so I'm sure by now everyone knows. To be honest, I don't really give a rip what anyone other than my family thinks and they are excited for me. We live in bodies that are ripe for diabetes, heart disease an multiple cancers. No one questions heart bypass surgery so why should they question barbaric surgery. I think that it would be awesome if my journey could help someone else.

I am still pre op and I have only told my husband. I would like to keep it that way because I don't feel like I should have to explain anything about what I do with my body to others. I have no plans to ever tell my son because I think it would be too difficult for him to not let it slip out.

I am still pre op and I have only told my husband. I would like to keep it that way because I don't feel like I should have to explain anything about what I do with my body to others. I have no plans to ever tell my son because I think it would be too difficult for him to not let it slip out.

I completely understand. We didn't tell our children either. In our case as a blended family, there are ex's who would have no right to comment but would certainly do so from everything like money or their opinions however skewed ... to 4 sets of parents wit lots of different viewpoints. It was just so much simpler to keep it between us and not put anyone in a position that they felt they had to keep a secret. I wish I could tell my best friend, and I could, but it's a heavy responsibility to put on her to "not tell anyone". Mums just the word around here.

I have told some close friends, my family and 3 coworkers but not my bosses and the only thing I'm worried about is that I've only taken one week off work and if I have complications I don't know what I'll do. I'm working on Monday next week and my surgery's on Tuesday so I'm debating on telling them just in case.

I have told some close friends, my family and 3 coworkers but not my bosses and the only thing I'm worried about is that I've only taken one week off work and if I have complications I don't know what I'll do. I'm working on Monday next week and my surgery's on Tuesday so I'm debating on telling them just in case.

I had my surgery on Wednesday and went back to work the following Tuesday without any problems. Assuming no complications, you should be fine. Good luck on your surgery!

I have told some close friends, my family and 3 coworkers but not my bosses and the only thing I'm worried about is that I've only taken one week off work and if I have complications I don't know what I'll do. I'm working on Monday next week and my surgery's on Tuesday so I'm debating on telling them just in case.

I had my surgery on Wednesday and went back to work the following Tuesday without any problems. Assuming no complications, you should be fine. Good luck on your surgery!

Thanks! I'm crossing my fingers.