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Y'know that saying, "You can't keep a good woman down"?

Well I am woman, hear me roar!

Only my roar goes sorta like "Grrrr...hic...rrrrrr"

I started the process of getting approved for RNY 2.5 years ago and everything was going really well. No sleep apnea? Check!! Crazy as a loon? Check, but well medicated. *smug smile*. Meet all of the requirements? Check!! I'm morbidly obese, but generally pretty healthy.

Then I was waiting for the final appointment when all heck broke loose. Last October, I started peeing blood. Tiny amount, but blood nevertheless. I didn't eat asparagus, and it couldn't be a UTI, because I was just finishing antibiotics for a chest cough. Hmmmmmm.....

I work in a hospital, so got my lil' butt down to emerg, peed in a cup, and went back to work. The next day, WHAM! ultrasound...then WHAM...cystoscopy (camera to look up into my bladder).

Then two weeks later...THUD!!!!! I have aggressive papillary non invasive bladder cancer. Like, what the heck??? I'm only 39 and I don't smoke, and other than being obese, I'm the picture of perfect health!!

We had the tumor removed, and I'm on a three year regimen of treatments called BCG and I examine the toilet bowl every single damn time I pee now. I'm like a toddler who looks at her accomplishments in the bathroom with pride. Look ma!! Yellow pee!!!

I had to have a follow up appointment with the WLS surgeon. He told me that I need to be cancer free for two years before weight loss surgery. I was devastated...this kind of cancer has 80 percent chance of coming back...the oncologist wants me to lose weight so that he can take out the bladder and make me a new one from my lower intestine called a 'neo-bladder'. So I went running to my oncologist, he had an intense discussion with the WLS doc and the new game plan is not to have an RNY, but to go ahead with a sleeve. That way there will be enough guts for the neo bladder.

So now, I'm back on track. Final hurdles have been jumped. Waiting for the call to book me for surgery. It should be sometime soon...before August. I can't wait! It's already been a long road, and it's going to be an even longer road ahead of me But I take it one day at a time, and am grateful for my daily gifts. And for pee. Yellow pee.

My dad is a 30 plus yr bladder cancer survivor. ..he did the European treatment where they implanted I think was form of aggressive virus it took a short period of time an gets chkd yearly with camera doing good an so will u...theyv come along way..I'm glad they found it they can treat it an you can get it sleeve! !!woo woo! I hate it's been a trip but you can now see light at the end of the tunnel like we all are doing..:) hang in there...Mine is Tuesday I'm on count down..:)

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You are such an inspiration and have such a great spirit. Good luck with everything.

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      On day 4 of the 2 week liquid pre-op diet. Surgery scheduled for June 11th.
      Soooo I am coming to a realization
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      On day 4 of the 2 week liquid pre-op diet. Surgery scheduled for June 11th.
      Soooo I am coming to a realization
      of something and I'm not sure what to do about it. For years the only thing I've enjoyed is eating. We rarely do anything or go anywhere and if we do it always includes food. Family comes over? Big family dinner! Go camping? Food! Take a short ride or trip? Food! Holiday? Food! Go out of town for a Dr appointment? Food! When we go to a new town we don't look for any attractions, we look for restaurants we haven't been to. Heck, I look forward to getting off work because that means it's almost supper time. Now that I'm drinking these pre-op shakes for breakfast, lunch, and supper I have nothing to look forward to.  And once I have surgery on June 11th it'll be more of the same shakes. Even after pureed stage, soft food stage, and finally regular food stage, it's going to be a drastic change for the rest of my life. I'm giving up the one thing that really brings me joy. Eating. How do you cope with that? What do you do to fill that void? Wow. Now I'm sad.
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      1. summerseeker

        Life as a big person had limited my life to what I knew I could manage to do each day. That was eat. I hadn't anything else to look forward to. So my eating choices were the best I could dream up. I planned the cooking in managable lots in my head and filled my day with and around it.

        Now I have a whole new big, bigger, biggest, best days ever. I am out there with those skinny people doing stuff i could never have dreamt of. Food is now an after thought. It doesn't consume my day. I still enjoy the good home cooked food but I eat smaller portions. I leave food on my plate when I am full. I can no longer hear my mother's voice saying eat it all up, ther are starving children in Africa who would want that!

        I still cook for family feasts, I love cooking. I still do holidays but I have changed from the All inclusive drinking and eating everything everyday kind to Self catering accommodation. This gives me the choice of cooking or eating out as I choose. I rarely drink anymore as I usually travel alone now and I feel I need to keep aware of my surroundings.

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        BTW, the liquid diet sucks, one more day and you are over the worst. You can do it.

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