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I had my surgery this past Monday. Today is Wednesday, my first day home from the hospital and I feel really depressed. Did anyone else experience this and if so how did you deal with it?

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OMG>... My surgery was 3 weeks ago today and I had a really rough surgery and recovery. (I was in the hospital for 4 days) When I got home, I balled my eyes out for a few days and thought I must be losing my mind. I did call my dr. because I have always struggled with depression (and am on meds) and he said it was perfectly normal and a lot of patients experience this. He also said it effects women of child bearing age more because it shifts the hormones in your body. It did get better.... be patient and lean on your supports.

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There are a lot of reasons you are down..One you are recovering from major surgery. Two your body is putting all its efforts into rebuilding your system and cleaning out all the junk they filled you with when you were under and after, ex. pain meds...

Three, now is the beginning of a new era for you and fear and confusion and doubt start to play on your minds..Not to mention that you can't depend on one of the only things that brought you comfort...FOOD...This is a start of a whole new world and life for you...

Think of why you did this in the first place, write it down and read it over and over again...I know you thought and feel it was right for you or you would not have done it.....Then shake it off, look after yourself until you are healed and go forward in your journey....All that you are going through is what everyone feels at some point..K

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Thanks for the words of support and encouragement. You guys are awesome!

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Today is my second day after surgery its been hard but one day at a time, taking it easy trying to take my flyids walking and moving.

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Today is my 7th day since surgery. I have gone through an array of emotions from being angry with myself for doing this to questioning myself constantly. But today I found out one of my past supervisors died of a heart attack at age 35......yeah kinda puts things back in perspective. Hang in there and focus on the goal and feeling better. Rest, Protein and prayers.....that is where I am in this process. I can not allow food to continue to control my life.

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I had my suergery tuesday n having pain at about 6-8. N stomach cramping n diarrhea. N can't seem to get comfortable to sleep.< /p>

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Thank God found this post! Had surgery Dec 9th and was an emotional wreck yesterday! I could not stop crying! Still feel weepy today but I have 5 year old twin boys and don't want to cry in front of them.

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I'm 4day after surgery and just got a skin rash on my face! Has any one had the same? Feeling better drinking and happier than yesterday

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I wasn't depressed post-op... I WAS PISSED! Don't know why, but I hated the world and wanted to fight, every day for the first week. :D

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Fifth day and feeling great! No regrets, only not doing it before!

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I was never a highly emotional person, but after surgery I found myself to be an emotional mess (Depressed, sad, angry, etc)! Didn't know what was wrong with me, but after reading some posts on this forum I learned that your body is being flooded with hormones (particularly estrogen) from the fat cells being broken down for energy. I was assured that this would subside after about 4-6 weeks and it did! Everything made sense to me after factoring that in.

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      Soooo I am coming to a realization
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