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I am new out still, am 6 weeks out. I regret it every day. I am so tired, and all food makes me ill. But, I am not sure yet f I would actually want to get it reversed. I know it will get better. So regrets, right now yes, but I am not sure I would regret it a year from now :)

Sorry if this made no sense, I have been in a fog and am clumsy and not at all with it.

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I am new out still, am 6 weeks out. I regret it every day. I am so tired, and all food makes me ill. But, I am not sure yet f I would actually want to get it reversed. I know it will get better. So regrets, right now yes, but I am not sure I would regret it a year from now :)

Sorry if this made no sense, I have been in a fog and am clumsy and not at all with it.

I also had a hard time the first weeks. I maybe had second thoughts.. After about eight weeks, things turned around, especially after I started walking. Depression after surgery is a side effect at times. You may feeling very differently in a short while.

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Thank you all so much for your thoughtful, encouraging and honest replies. I think I'm just mostly scared about surgery. I have a friend at work who is four months out, has lost 70 pounds, but is just now getting energy back. This forum has helped manage expectations a lot - everyone is different, but it's been great to hear the challenges too so that I know I'm not alone if something is tough. Thanks all for your support! One-week pre-op diet starts tomorrow, along with ultrasound and pre-testing. :)

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You look very young in your picture. You've read other posts that say, "I wish I had RNY sooner"That being the primary regret. You had enough hindsight to complete all the requirements. Now you are prepared to begin a new stage of your life. As DL Cloggins says, "You are going to love the New You!"

Thanks a bunch! I hope I don't lose my youthful glow when my face isn't so chubby!

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Heck no, absolutely no regrets. I wish I could have had this surgery 10+ years ago. I wasted all my youth on being miserable, embarrassed, worthless, ugly and hating myself. Such a shame!

The first few months will prove to be difficult as with any kind of major surgery but it's so beyond worth it. No more medications for all the hundred pains in each corner of your body, no more elevated blood pressure and being told you are close to a heart attack, no more sweating like a waterfall, no more crying in the changing room, no more judgement because of your size and no more days where you want to hide yourself from the world and live secluded from humanity because you can't fit in.

All these generals make this surgery a blessing to obese folk.

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Thank you all so much for your thoughtful, encouraging and honest replies. I think I'm just mostly scared about surgery. I have a friend at work who is four months out, has lost 70 pounds, but is just now getting energy back. This forum has helped manage expectations a lot - everyone is different, but it's been great to hear the challenges too so that I know I'm not alone if something is tough. Thanks all for your support! One-week pre-op diet starts tomorrow, along with ultrasound and pre-testing. :)

As you said, everyone I different. I was cutting grass (1 1/2 acres) only 8 days after my surgery. I was back to work full time at two weeks. I felt great! I never had the energy drain that some people felt. Don't worry abut what MIGHT happen, because it MIGHT NOT. Do be prepared just in case. :-)

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Heck no, absolutely no regrets. I wish I could have had this surgery 10+ years ago. I wasted all my youth on being miserable, embarrassed, worthless, ugly and hating myself. Such a shame!

The first few months will prove to be difficult as with any kind of major surgery but it's so beyond worth it. No more medications for all the hundred pains in each corner of your body, no more elevated blood pressure and being told you are close to a heart attack, no more sweating like a waterfall, no more crying in the changing room, no more judgement because of your size and no more days where you want to hide yourself from the world and live secluded from humanity because you can't fit in.

All these generals make this surgery a blessing to obese folk.

You're so right on...all of my life, weight has been an issue. I'm done, and I want to realize my true potential where my spirit and body are strong and healthy! Still scared, of course... and I'm afraid of "mourning" my old ways and foods, but I look at it this way: I gave up a lot of life for food, and now I'm ready to give up a lot of food for more life!

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No doing it sooner is really my only regret. Exercise as much as you can now. Make an inspiration board. Follow the rules to a t. You will do awesome!

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I have no regrets. It is worth it. It is hard work but you can do. Stay strong.

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Thanks, all! Surgery is tomorrow at 7:30 am! I'm nervous, but channeling Larry the Cable Guy: "Let's get 'er done!" woot woot!

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I just got my surgery date for 12/19. I feel I'm ready - I'm so done with the exhaustion, joint pain, no energy, etc., and I want to lead a healthy, active life - but now that it's real, I'm getting scared. I told my doc that I'm mostly just afraid of the medical things (I.e., surgery going well), and I know it's a massive lifestyle change, but i feel pretty good about it and have great support. So I'starting to stay positive, but am starting to freak a little. I've heard it's common to have those "why did I do this" thoughts during the first month after....but do you have any regrets now? I need some encouragement (which is really difficult for me to request!)... Hoping you can help, and would love to hear your stories over overcoming fears and regret. Thanks in advance!

My surgery at 11am tomorrow good luck????

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