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gowalking    10,790

gowalking
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Relax, relax. She's fine. What I mean by the topic title is that when I was at my son and daughter-in-law's house for Thanksgiving last night, I was talking to her mom and she he knows about the lapband so I had no issues discussing details with her. When she asked how much weight I had lost, I told her it was now around 95 lbs.

She said, 'really? Do you realize that's what Debbie weighs'. ...and suddenly I realized...OMG...I've been literally carrying around another person all this time. I know we often say of someone who has lost alot of weight that they're half their size and while I haven't actually lost half my size, I really have lost a whole person. And not just a 'virtual' person, but the person who was right in front of me cooking dinner.< /p>

What an amazing visual that was. I pictured carrying her around on my back and realized that was what I had done to myself. I'm proud of the loss yet truly disturbed by having gotten so heavy. In my head, I will keep a picture of me carrying Debbie on my back and hope that this will really help me if I find myself not being compliant in the future.

I think it will really help me to keep the weight off as that is my focus now.

PS: I hope everyone had a wonderful and successful day yesterday.

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♕ajtexas♕    3,771

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Isn't it amazing how much we carried around. No wonder we couldn't walk up stairs or play with our kids/grandkids.

Congrats on your loss that is wonderful.

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kll724    3,055

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Scarey title there! I was just going to send you my condolences, now I will send you my congratualtions, instead! You ae doing marvelously! Happy black Friday, stay away from leftovers!!

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chasingadream    1,311

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That is GREAT...it is crazy when you think of what we carry and are losing. Im down 50lbs but I often think of that as 10 - 5 lb bags of potatoes. Try going to the store and picking all that up in your arms at once. It blows my mind.

I can't imagine how it feel to lose 100, 125, 150 and more like many here have been successful doing....However, I do look forward to that day.

Thanks for sharing that great story!

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m1aman    944

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Okay you got me with the title also and I was wondering why you are posting it in this forum. :D

It makes me so happy to see you and others doing well!

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KateB    63

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Congratulations!! It's amazing!!!

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Great post! So very inspiring!

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babykins529    189

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Its amazing to think that we used to carry around that much weight. My 7 year old weights about 50 pounds and I've lost about 53 pounds thus far, and when I had to carry her up the stairs to her bedroom, I about died. Then it dawned on me...no wonder I huffed and puffed up the stairs...I used to carry all that weight on my person! I'm so happy and proud for you!!!

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