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My Lovely woman is on day 4 on the pre op liquid diet and omg I don't know what to do to help she is misskokokiss on here I love her dearly and try to keep her on track when she wants to cheat... but she is moody somedays which I very much understand (no one wants to go with out eating) and try to be her #1 chearleader and supporter cause I'am and very proud of her for making this decision but I need help should I allow her to cheat or stay the course... Oh and she has 10 more days to go any words will be helpful

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My husband is going through this with me. It's not easy. I'm on day 5 post op. Sugar Free Chocolate mousse. It's a wonderful tasting treat and was ok'd on my pre op diet. Makes you feel like you cheated. You'll do fine. The fact that you're on this support website says a lot.

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My Lovely woman is on day 4 on the pre op liquid diet and omg I don't know what to do to help she is misskokokiss on here I love her dearly and try to keep her on track when she wants to cheat... but she is moody somedays which I very much understand (no one wants to go with out eating) and try to be her #1 chearleader and supporter cause I'am and very proud of her for making this decision but I need help should I allow her to cheat or stay the course... Oh and she has 10 more days to go any words will be helpful

You are a good man!! Keep supporting her but remember, this is her journey and you can't be her jailer. Make some "legal" suggestions to her that are on her diet. Use some psychological tricks, getting her to envision what she will look like when she looses the weight. Women love that visual... we are all such Divas. Remind her that for her to reach that vision she has to stay on track... but you can't force her. She has to learn to make her decisions and be able to live with them. Good luck and stick with your lady as this will all be a memory that you can both joke about at a later date.

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First it is nice I think that your here looking for further answers on how to support her. My hubby went to my last pre op class with me and that helped A ton. My program require us to bring some one if possible. In the beginning, I missed food and one time I was mad at others= lost my best friend food. But boy am I so much happier, better. And yes my good marriage/relationship got even better.

Keys : is support classes together discuss it , try it if you two agree. At least one. So you know what to expect after Surgery. You can talk with the nutritionist together if the pre op classes are finish.

Relax it really gets better

It's a process!!!

Good luck

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