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Patience.... The Good, The Bad.... The Ugly



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I am human.... I know crazy. I am also am emotionally fueled female who wants things NOW! and I don't want to wait. When I started pursuing this journey I read and reread this forum, and others, I attended, and continue to attend support groups and I have read many books. I knew coming into this that I would be an individual, that I would go at my own pace, my own personal path and that I shouldn't ever compare myself to others. It is so easy to say "If I just knew my future, and where this journey leads me than maybe I could relax and enjoy the ride" except I can't! I am not moving at the pace I thought, or hoped I would when I started. I have no regrets, I love my sleeve, I love that I can go out to lunch with my family and be satisfied eating 1/3 of my meal, that a mear 3oz of Protein can sustain me for hours. I love that I don't struggle with Water, because I love my water.... However it is difficult to lose 1.8# in a week, when I know that I should embrace the loss and be happy that up until this point (7 weeks) I have not plateaued, stalled, or gained in any given week. Last night my best friend sent me this.....

Dear Patient Girl,

You knew when you started on this path towards your goals and your dreams, staying on the pathway that's meant just for you, that sometimes the road was going to get rough, that things would not always be fun or easy, and that you were willing to sacrifice whatever it took to get there.

So why is it, gorgeous friend, that when things do get tough or boring, or when sacrifice is required, that we somehow forget and think that things must not be going exactly how they are supposed to be going, when we knew when we started that there would surely be days like this?

Don't let the tough times get you down. They are part of the journey, and they are temporary. Learn what you can while you are in those times. But most of all, be patient, and let yourself remember that you knew this would happen, and you knew that you could and would make it. And you will. And you ARE. It will be worth it.

You are so loved.

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Total Loss: (Since 5/13) 47.8#

Since Pre Op Diet: (8/17/13) 35.8#

Since Day of Surgery: (8/27/13) 25.8#

NSV: Gone from a size 26 to a loose 20, run up stairs without getting short of breath, do an hour of cardio like it is nothing, finding bones I didn't know existed! Last night.... I was laying in my bed and I scratched my side and felt a lump... I was like OH MY GOSH so I felt again and it was my rib!!! MY RIB!!!

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Don't let the tough times get you down. , be patient - you could and would make it. And you will. You are so loved.

Macy6

YOU must be a very special person to have someone write such lovely words to/about you :)

what a wonderfriend you have - i'm sure you respectively cherish each other :)

you are doing terrific

new, smaller clothes

going up the stairs without huffing and puffing!!!

exercising too!!!!

you are aces :)

keep up the good job :)

kathy

congrats

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Lovely friend, you've got.

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U must be a very special friend & very imoortant to those who have the pleasure of knowing you. That is awesome that you have such a great supporting friend who took the time to write such a lovely note to you!!!

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That friend is a keeper! You should be proud of yourself - look at what you've accomplished so far.

Be kind to yourself and DO enjoy this ride. In a year, you're going to look back at this bump and think it was no big deal.

Hang in there! You're doing great.

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