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I just finished serving my family thr dinner I made them. Baked chicken thighs and mashed potatoes with a green salad on the side. I served them all, grabbed my crystal light lemonade and sat down with them. Kinda sad because I wish I could eat but, happy I'm losing weight so I can deal with it. Then my hubby says. 'You should leave the table I dnt feel comfortable eating infront of you' I say I'm ok I can handle it. But he insist he can't eat that way. So here I am in my room waiting on my family to b done eating. Feeling left out. I'm exactly one week post op today..... oh well. It will get better. Just tired of liquids blah!

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I woulda told my husband to kiss my butt! That was very insensitive!!!!

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I woulda told my husband to kiss my butt! That was very insensitive!!!!

Yeah he meant well because he knows I want food but, the way it came out made me feel isolated :(

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How about 'thank you for worrying about me but being isolated and not feeling like part of the family makes me feel worse'. I guess that's better than kiss my butt :)

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How about 'thank you for worrying about me but being isolated and not feeling like part of the family makes me feel worse'. I guess that's better than kiss my butt :)

Lol. :)

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It will get better, u will b eating food soon! Hang in there :)

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My husband said I was starting to stare at him like our dog Molly does when he wants what is on his plate. It is only temporary and it does get better.

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Don't feel bad....my mom was here helping me recover and she went all out cooking tacos...chicken..enchiladas. .I mean you name it she made it..and I was fine...didn't bother me one bit. ..I wasn't hungry..but then when it was my hubby's turn to get surgery and by this time I was on soft foods. .he couldn't deal...everyone reacts and handles it differently..

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That was rotten of him. Next time, maybe you can heat up some broth in a bowl or some creamy Soup and enjoy dinner with your family. I sure hope he's not going to chase you out of the dinner table like that ever again. Teach him respect --- you have earned it!

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My family was the same way...they felt really guilty eating in front of me. At first it was really hard for me to watch them enjoy foods I knew I would probably never eat again, but 1 month post-op and I don't care at all about what others are eating! I just told my mom that food wasn't important to me anymore and I didn't mind being around food I couldn't have. She is still leery to eat around me, but I just continue to reinforce the idea that I'm OK with it. Your husband means well!!

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Yeah he meant well because he knows I want food but' date=' the way it came out made me feel isolated :([/quote']

Tell him he needs to be supportive even if you sit @dinner table

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