To tell or not to tell...my story

[Firecallie 2]

So it's been about a year and a half since i've had my surgery. I am at goal and VERY pleased with my results. I love everything that this band has helped me attained. I am now at goal (though I would still like to drop maybe 10 lbs) but mainly tone up. In the beginning two of my friends inadvertantly found out about my surgery. They were really supportive and great but I kept the surgery a secret from everyone else. Well time went by, and my friends really began noticing my eating habits drastically changed. What's more I often gurgle and have to get up and walk around in addition to not eating much. My friends wondered about me, always making side comments on how I wasn't eating much, making them feel like a pig, but I always told them it was because of my gallbladder. Eventually it got to the point where one of my friends was convinced I had an eating disorder, she was confused because I wasn't eating much but I would get up and walk to the bathroom (to walk around) virtually every meal.

So finally I sat down with them at dinner and I told them that I had not been truthful about the gallbladder surgery (initially, because later on i did really have to have my gallbladder out and I had to tell them that it was a hernia) and that I had a lap band put in. All in all I was SO glad that I told them. It was so hard for me to hide the truth and to make excuses for everything. They accept my decision whether or not they approve I don't know but that has not affected our relationship. So that's that, my success story, and I now only hope that I can maintain now that I am comfortable with the shape i'm in.

[tinker0614 0]

I have been battling with this same things of telling or not telling. I don't know why I can't seem to tell my friends other than I feel ashamed that I couldn't do it myself. I am suppose to have more control over my life. I am suppose to be an overcomer. I guess that I need to be sure it is going to work before I start announcing it! doesn't that sound silly!