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1) eating too much

2) my man boobs

3) wearing the same pants to work every day because they're the only thing that fits

4) getting excited about food

5) struggling to get off the couch

6) telling my son I can't go outside to play with him because the Mosquitos are too bad

7) telling my wife no because I'm embarrassed of my body

7b) telling my wife I'm too tired because... I am

8) telling myself I will get up and be active tomorrow

If you feel the same or have anything to add to the list the feel free to reply :) writing this list out was really therapeutic for me

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I will not miss calling my maternity jeans "yoga jeans" because they are the only thing that fits me 15 months postpartum.

I will not miss having my arms go numb when I sleep.

I will not miss dreading the stairs.

I will not miss straining to wipe my own ass.

I will not miss having to buy bigger purses because my arms are big.

I will not miss the way my belly almost steers the car for me.

I will not miss being the "big funny" girl.

I will not miss being called ma'am when I'm in my mid twenties.

I will not miss turning sideways to fit in those little turn things at the rec center.

I will not miss shopping at Lane Bryant.

Most of all I will not miss feeling so uncomfortable.

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I will not miss

1. being the fattest person in the room. Every room. All the time.

2. my feet and ankles being the size they are. They hurt all the time. Even Lasix doesn't help much.

3. sweating even when I'm not doing anything.

4. wearing ugly expensive clothes because I can only shop at a couple stores.

5. not being able to sit on the floor and play with my daughter.

6. pretending to buckle my seatbelt when driving. Or having it pulled all the way out when I do wear it and it's cutting into my neck.

7. being winded after walking up a flight of stairs.

8. not wanting to have sex with my husband often because I'm not as flexible as I want to be.

9. feeling that everyone around me is disgusted by my appearance.

10. not fitting into a booth, theater seats, any seat with arms, etc.

11. watching life from the sidelines. I want to enjoy it fully.

I could go on and on forever. My surgery date is July 1st. The beginning of a whole new me.

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I will not miss,

1. The pizza delivery guys judgemental looks.

2. Being called "Big Guy"

3. Being afraid i will kill lawn furniture.

4. Purchasing two seats on a plane

5. Requiring 2 seats on the trolley. ( well actually 1-1/4)

6. Large grocery bills

7. Taking what i can get at the big & tall stores.

8. Shopping at big & tall stores

9. McDonalds & similar stores

10. Sweating in the middle of winter

11. Not being able to walk more than fifty yards at a time.

12. Feeling ashamed when i eat out.

there are many more but that is behind me! my future course is charted and the next phase of my life begins with my surgery on June 12, 2013.

Thanks for posting this thread. its amazing how many items i could empathise with. but alas i bid farwell to the " big guy" and say hello to life!

cheers!

RJ

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I will not miss size 18 jeans

I will not miss XL clothes

I will not miss big hands

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I will not miss

1. being the fattest person in the room. Every room. All the time.

2. my feet and ankles being the size they are. They hurt all the time. Even Lasix doesn't help much.

3. sweating even when I'm not doing anything.

4. wearing ugly expensive clothes because I can only shop at a couple stores.

5. not being able to sit on the floor and play with my daughter.

6. pretending to buckle my seatbelt when driving. Or having it pulled all the way out when I do wear it and it's cutting into my neck.

7. being winded after walking up a flight of stairs.

8. not wanting to have sex with my husband often because I'm not as flexible as I want to be.

9. feeling that everyone around me is disgusted by my appearance.

10. not fitting into a booth' date=' theater seats, any seat with arms, etc.

11. watching life from the sidelines. I want to enjoy it fully.

I could go on and on forever. My surgery date is July 1st. The beginning of a whole new me.[/quote']

TMI ALERT - #8 hit home. Flexibility, and I can't breathe in certain positions. It's very hard to have sex when you really don't feel sexy. I disgust myself so I imagine I must be disgusting to him too. Although I am positive he loves me after 31yrs married, 34yrs together. I'm doing this for me but he will reap the benefits! :-)

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I washed dishes today, and by the time I was done, my back was killing me! Definitely won't' miss that. Won't miss being afraid to lay down to sleep because I know I'll wake up with some kind of pain somewhere. And I'm hoping my desire for sex will come back if I feel sexier...I'm sure my husband would cosign with that one. There are a million more I"m sure...

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I won't miss

~ my thighs rubbing together

~ not being able to see my feet (lol)

~ struggling to paint my toes

~ grunting when I have to squat or pick something up

~ heavy breasts (lol)

~ anything plus sized

~ girdles / Spanx

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I won't miss wearing pants in the summer because shorts ride up from my thighs rubbing together. I won't miss hardly fitting in stadium seats or amusement park rides. I won't miss only being able to to dishes for ten minutes at a time because my back starts killing me. I won't miss sweating from running the vacuum. I won't miss having to contort myself into a yoga like position to paint my toes. I won't miss my CPAP machine. I won't miss being embarrassed to use my gym membership. I won't miss worrying if I'm going to blow out the inseam on my work khakis. I won't miss having to slip on my shoes because my stomach is in the way of tying them. I won't miss being 29 and wearing mom jeans.

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I won't miss the horror of exposing my jiggly fat arms and 'cankles' the first time it gets warm. It takes a little while to adjust to that embarrassment. I won't miss hiding out in the air conditioned house when I'm no t working because the heat damn near kills me. And, like you, I won't miss wearing long pants when it's hot to hide my hideous legs! And I won't miss dreading the time of year that normal people look forward to, and praying fall comes quickly.

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I won't miss the horror of exposing my jiggly fat arms and 'cankles' the first time it gets warm. It takes a little while to adjust to that embarrassment. I won't miss hiding out in the air conditioned house when I'm no t working because the heat damn near kills me. And' date=' like you, I won't miss wearing long pants when it's hot to hide my hideous legs! And I won't miss dreading the time of year that normal people look forward to, and praying fall comes quickly.[/quote']

I love everything you said here!

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