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i'm not sure I'm doing this right, but I wanted to volunteer to help someone since I'm 5 years out and have maintained my current weight for 2 years. I'm in South Carolina.. anybody just hollar. :)

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Hi, I am in SC as well. I had RNY 8 weeks ago. And would love to have a mentor. What part of SC are you in?

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I'm in Columbia. I can travel if needed just let me know.

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I'm 10 months and starting to get stressed and depressed. I'm actually scared to eat and trying to increase my exercise. I feel like if I don't hit a smaller number or start back loosing i have failed!!!

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First don't stress out. We all hit a plateau and thats when we figure out really how to use this tool we've been given. If you've plateaued try changing your eating around or increasing your fat burning exercise..my favorite it just dance lol. Depression seems to hit us all and its really confusing because we should be euphoric after losing that much, but sometimes it just doesn't happen that way our brains are tricky creatures. You are literally mourning a life long friend that you relied on, food. You go through the stages and its perfectly normal. If your thinking irrational or thoughts you shouldn't that's not. If you need to pm me to be private.

When I first got depressed I was down around 60lbs. I was standing in the bathroom drying my hair and looked at the sink and thought "I wonder how bad it would hurt to die that way" it was really irrational and scared me. I went that day and waited in the waiting room to speak privately to my surgeon. He got me set up with therapy and helped me a lot even going as far as to call me privately from his home phone.

Try to reflect on the good things right now instead of the bad, i know your going yeah ok. Trust me, get ur hair done or go buy you a top or pants that you like and dress up whether u feel like it or not. That girl that on that table 10 months ago died and the one who woke up is a brand new one you have a chance most don't get and thats to reinvent yourself. Talking it out helps too or at least it does me. I actually get on my own nerves repeating myself but its how I cope now.

Another suggestion stay off the sad sappy music.. get you some crazy jumping music that makes you feel good and inspires you. Music is my life and really its what I turn to for therapy. I also see a therapist once a week to get out frustrations and it helps a lot.

Like I said if u need to chat pm me because I can bet you are not going through something I haven't experienced and I'm a open honest book. It gets better, each day you get stronger.

(((hugs)))

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I am in SC too, Rock Hill. I had RNY Dec 19 2011. Down 100lbs and I could use some words of encouragement every once in awhile. My name is Trina.

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I'm 10 months and starting to get stressed and depressed. I'm actually scared to eat and trying to increase my exercise. I feel like if I don't hit a smaller number or start back loosing i have failed!!!

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Kiwi,

You are doing amazing! Hold strong girl! I have lost only another 7 lbs past my 8th month and have had to stick to Proteins and veggies and really ramp up my exercise. But it's slow. Doc says i am where my body wants to be. Bad news is i am hovering at 160 and i want to be in the 140s. We will get there.

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I am in SC too' date=' Rock Hill. I had RNY Dec 19 2011. Down 100lbs and I could use some words of encouragement every once in awhile. My name is Trina.[/quote']

Celsia,

100 lbs is awesome! Just keep up with Proteins and veggies. Keep exercising. You can do this!

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I'm 9 months post and find myself staring at the scale daily praying the number will move!!! I seem to stuck too. It's depressing! Thanks the words ladies!

Surgery date 7/25/12

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I'm new :) This is my first post. I would love to find someone in the Upstate SC area. I do not have a surgery date yet it's looking like October. It would be great to be a little prepared and have someone to talk to. I don't have any support at home as of now, hubby is so against the surgery. Anyways if anyone is close id be greatful.

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