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Well, I'm Kelly I turned 30 in september. I have three kids two girls 11-9 and a boy 3. Since having this surgery my life has become surreal. Two months after having surgery I served my ex-husband with divorce papers. I made the decision that day on that gurney that when I woke up that Kelly would be gone. Since he cheated and kept at it and after that surgery I thought what's divorced verses major surgery.

The funny thing about GB is the tricks it plays. You go from going the girl who's EVERY guys friend and fixes them up but secretly you wanted it to be you. Your so use to being ignored and looked over you attach to the first person to come into your life and call you "beautiful." I fell victim to that and wound up in a severely abusive and dangerous relationship. The last night he hit me it was with his iphone and when he left for work I started packing bags. I took all of my kids clothes and couldn't bring all mine bc they wouldn't fit. Needless to say just a few months later my ex took everything I owned because I literally fled to another state to get away. Took me a while to accept losing precious antiques, but their materials and cacn be replaced my life can't. So we left.

After leaving and settling in the new state I tried to figure out what to do. My bestfriend said I had been through too much to not have my fairy tale. So, on her she set me up an acct on christianmingle. I sent out a few messages and sat talking to the screen that I was stupid for doing this lol. While looking through some of the eye candy and some of the well duds. lol I seen a Marines' page and Lord was he cute. I messaged him and we talked for a long time and finally met. Funny part is I drove him to a park where the local cops had a sub station there LOLOL... we walked what seemed like forever and for whatever devine reason i felt comfortable to tell him about the surgery/s. After talking to him for what seemed like forever I came home one night to find my apartment had been broke into they had stole my bed, jewlery and most importantly my kids birth videos were in my camera case. I felt like life was punishing me and literally threw my hands up and said I quit. Then he called I told him what happened and he said pack your stuff your all coming to live with me. We did and we're just a few months shy of a year. He's the greatest man I've ever met. My kids are his kids and is fully willing to adopt if the non-existent fathers would sign documents.

For the first time in my whole life I'm the girl introduced to his friends as his "hot girlfriend." I wish I could see what he see's because I don't see it what so ever. I wanted to share with yu'all bc I wanted you to know there are men out there who are good and you don't have to stay inside that box you built while being obese. Love should never hurt and it should always inspire.

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So happy you found your prince and finally in a happy loving safe relationship!

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What N awesome story... Can you please attach some pictures of the new you, the kids and your new love

~Leticia **HW: 259**PreOp: 216**SURG: 3/21/13 **Discharged @: 221**9 days post op: Down 20 lbs**

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Yes I sure can. I'm really glad I found this site I'm still reclusive when it comes to socializing and it feels good to talk to others like me .

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Love the story!!

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This is so amazing! Good for you.

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You have really changed your life for the better and possibly saved your girls life and your sons to not see and follow in his footsteps Good luck

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Thanks yall I truly hope so.

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Thank you for sharing your story. Happy that you found someone that can see you for who you are =]

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Me too it was hard road tho..

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