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I just found out my husband will not be able to get out of working the week after my surgery and I just wanted to know what people's experience was. Did you find that you really needed someone around when you got home from the hospital? What kinds of things did you need help with? And for how long a time period? My surgery is on a Friday morning (yay) so I will have part of a day home after being discharged before my hubby has to go to work. I assume I will be sleeping a lot...Oh and I do not have kids. Thank you so much!

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I was pretty much fine on my own after and didn't need my hubby to be with me...

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The day I got home was the worst bc I was so uncomfortable. I got up early the following morning and took care of my 3 year old while hubby slept. The only thing I couldn't do was drive and push shopping carts. I did dishes, went to dance class with daughter and was walking a mile 2 days after surgery. The 1st few days I took pain meds as scheduled!!!! Then stopped. Nights were hard for me, I couldn't cover up by myself! Lame!! You will be fine!!

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I stayed with my parents 3 days (I'm single with an 8 year old). Mom kept doing things for me and I kept trying to stop her :D you won't be doing laundry and vacuuming but you should e able to get a drink, use the bathroom....all the necessities. Jut don't get goofy and overdo it!!!

HW 312, pre-op (lap-band) 294, pre-op (RNY) 255, surgery date 2/11/13, goal weight 154, current weight 238

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I was pretty much fine on my own after and didn't need my hubby to be with me...

OK good to know. Then I should not have my mother in law fly in LOL??

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The day I got home was the worst bc I was so uncomfortable. I got up early the following morning and took care of my 3 year old while hubby slept. The only thing I couldn't do was drive and push shopping carts. I did dishes, went to dance class with daughter and was walking a mile 2 days after surgery. The 1st few days I took pain meds as scheduled!!!! Then stopped. Nights were hard for me, I couldn't cover up by myself! Lame!! You will be fine!!

Thank you for the info!! I had a cyst taken off of my ovary years ago and had about a five inch incision. I could not do a thing for a while. I keep thinking it will be like that. I could not even get onto my bed and slept on the couch for several days. I even needed help getting on and off the dumb thing. SO all great info! Thank you!!

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I wasn't completely helpless but I needed help getting on and off the bed couch was ok. I'm nearly 4 weeks post op and I still sleep on couch. I needed help tying my left shoe or reaching things on the floor. My hubby helped me wash for 2 days after i got home. I feel like a wimp. I always thought I was strong but I've had some pain with this that makes it difficult to do somethings. Just remember everyone is different and surgery affects everyone differently. Good luck and God bless.

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I have had 3 c-sections and gallbladder removed the old fashion way... this surgery was a piece of cake!!

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I live alone with 2 large dogs, my BF picked me up from the hospital and stayed over that night. He left for work the following morning and I was fine with taking care of the doggies and myself. Its just nice to have someone there when you first get home.

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I just found out my husband will not be able to get out of working the week after my surgery and I just wanted to know what people's experience was. Did you find that you really needed someone around when you got home from the hospital? What kinds of things did you need help with? And for how long a time period? My surgery is on a Friday morning (yay) so I will have part of a day home after being discharged before my hubby has to go to work. I assume I will be sleeping a lot...Oh and I do not have kids. Thank you so much!

I think it will also depend on if you are having open or laparoscopic.

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I just found out my husband will not be able to get out of working the week after my surgery and I just wanted to know what people's experience was. Did you find that you really needed someone around when you got home from the hospital? What kinds of things did you need help with? And for how long a time period? My surgery is on a Friday morning (yay) so I will have part of a day home after being discharged before my hubby has to go to work. I assume I will be sleeping a lot...Oh and I do not have kids. Thank you so much!

My doctor recommended no driving for a week and yes it was very helpful that ny husband was home . I had trouble getting out of bed , walking , and with him being there it helped alot. I had laparoscopic gb Jan 21 and I still till this day need help at times, make sure if you have an android download a free hourly chine so that you can eat and take meds etc on time.

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