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Ok I have a very embarrassing problem. I have lost 114 pounds and I have a lot of extra skin. Well lately whenever my hubby and I are having relations if you know what I mean I get air sounds from down below. Well this really bothers me and it ruins my time EVERY TIME. I get very embarrassed. Even though he acts like it does not bother him. It really bothers me. Now I am wondering if there is a surgery that can fix this or does anyone have any suggestions. I know this is very wierd. But I didnt know who else to ask. I figured with all the weight loss going on on this site someone was sure to have this problem. Thanks guys.

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Have you experimented with other positions? If you're using the missionary position, try a pillow under you butt with your legs on your man's shoulders.

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OK.... first off... your husband probably doesn't hear it or notice it because he is concentrating on controling himself! LOL and if he does hear it.. it may turn him on even more.... GUYS are GUYS.... and he's probably happy he is even having relations.

Try to relax and be happy that you've lost 114 lbs THAT IS AWESOME!

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I think I would raither have air bubble sounds than the sounds of my fat rolls smacking each each other. If it really does bother you that much I am sure you could get some plastic surgery to remove the excess skin.

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I agree that it's probably more of a distraction for you than your husband. I think once the launch sequence is triggered they all go deaf, dumb and blind.

My very thin sister once told me (after a few drinks) that with her current boyfriend she was hearing "front farts," which made her laugh. Since it was never brought up again, I figured things had worked themselves out or that it wasn't much of a problem for her, just an observation.

I would suggest you try different positions and see if it makes a difference. Does the noise level increase with the level of speed and enthusiasm on his part (is he pumping you full of air?). Or are we talking about loose skin flapping around with abandon?

Most of all, be proud of what you've accomplished. Try and relax and enjoy your new sexy body.

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OMG- you all crack me up! I am laughing because your all so right. TracyinKS you know most men well. Happy to get it!! your all so funny.

It's nice for someone else to bring up topics so you can sit back and agree and laugh at yourself too.

For surgery you can have a Tummy Tuck. I did 3 weeks ago, however, no sex for 6 weeks so make sure the noise really bothers!! haha

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Ok, are you talking about "pooty farts"? And yeah, BTW this does have an official name - queef. Nice, huh?

...where he's acting like a plunger and stuffing you with air, then when he pulls back the air is coming out. If so, that's really normal - actually. Different positions will do it more. Positions where you're more "exposed" - like doggy, or if he's pushing your legs back over your head, or positions where he comes out farth - than positions where this doesn't happen, like you on top or in a chair or something.

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Oh and as for the embarassment, don't worry about it. They try to make it happen in porn. And that's not because it turns on the ladies. The other ladies are right. My husband laughs at it. I think he sees it as a manly doing. Like, "Yeah, I made you do that!"

Just tell him, "When you almost rip me in half like that, lots of air can get in. Oh, baby, plunge faster!"

No embarassment for you, and you've definitely made his "tickle my ego please" day.

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Oh my gosh you all crack me up. Thanks so much. I feel much better just knowing it is kind of normal. It never happened before I lost weight. I always knew I had a chunky monkey. But its not any more. I will try new positions and see if it helps. I tell you since I have lost weight I want to do "it" all the time. And this noise thing was really bothering me. I am going to just try and blow it off like its nothing. Thank all of you AGAIN.

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Oh and the noise sounds like air inside of me. I dont actually have a lot of skin hanging there. So I am not really sure why it is happening.

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Queef??? Now that's another thing I learned from you, Wheetsin.

I'm gettin' my edumacation on this board.

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Yeah, it is inside of you. You're basically being pistoned (think of what a piston does in a cylinder). As his "part" goes in, it's pushing air inside of you. What you're hearing is that air coming back out. It's under a little pressure, so it will come out whenever it can - either when he withdraws partially, or completely, or even if you change positions to something that opens you up a bit more. Really it's no big deal, it can be a source of a good laugh. ;)

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Queef??? Now that's another thing I learned from you, Wheetsin.

I'm gettin' my edumacation on this board.

Also known as a "vart" for vaginal fart. A very normal occurrence and nothing to be embarrassed about.

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Also known as a "vart" for vaginal fart. A very normal occurrence and nothing to be embarrassed about.

I've never been embarrassed about it, I just didn't realise it had it's own (sort of) biological nomenclature!;)

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