Whats the worst remark someone has said to you post op?

Worst comment of mine came from my "best friend" of 20 yrs she said taking the easy way out, why don't you work hard for something in your life you can be proud of! I was floored we were big all our lives together you think she would support but guess not!

Worst comment of mine came from my "best friend" of 20 yrs she said taking the easy way out' date=' why don't you work hard for something in your life you can be proud of! I was floored we were big all our lives together you think she would support but guess not![/quote']

Mean mean mean

How about" will c how long it lasts u" idiotic pepps

The worst is hearing people say that I "took the easy way out" I bet if they spent even 24hrs in my shoes they would change their tune!

I have an obese relative who constantly drops mildly negative commme te

Sorry - did. It mean to press send so quickly in previous post. I have an obese relative who makes slightly negative comments such as "oh, your diet is so limited right now - how sad." My calm reply: "it actually is not limited - I have to focus on Proteins." Relative's comment: "how sad that to cannot drink coffee." Calm reply: "I am very happy with decaf and do not want the appetite-stimulating and dehydration effects of caffeine." Relative's comment: "You are going to have a lot of loose skin." Calm reply: " I am happy to have lose skin and not suffer the negative effects of obesity." This relatives' comments are always said with an artificially sympathetic tone of voice. I consider them slightly passive aggressive. I counter them directly by calmly as soon as they occur because I have to spend a lot of time with this elderly relative. This is a other example of aggression being packaged beneath the veneer of a socially acceptable sympathy and politeness. This relative has a weight problem - so I have a feeling that that is the issue.

By contrast I have another obese relative (a parent) who says positive things such as "I am so happy that this surgery is possible and that you all not have to suffer what I have suffered." This elderly parent is basically bedridden from diabetes and could, sadly, never make it through surgery. Very interesting contrast.

When people remark about how little I eat, I tell them that after looking at their meals it's amazing to think I used to eat that much........conversation ends!

Good one mrsblues!!!!!

Worst comment I've been told: "you wouldn't need surgery if you just learned how to put the fork down and get off the couch"

My reply was something the lines of if it were that easy obesity wouldn't be a problem.

People are lame!

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Ugh, some people are clueless. I've had several family members who have actually had the surgery. The first was 15 yrs ago. She kept all the weight off, hasn't had issues, and it saved her life!!! So my family obviously have the genetics, and all are supportive. I just had the surgery a week ago. Only a couple people outside of my family knows I've had it. I feel it's none of their biz. But if asked I'll offer up how, no guilt only proud that I am bettering my life to make myself healthy.

Gen :-)

My lovely husband wondered why i got very angry with him' date=' after returning from my morning walk. He looked at me, and said you are going to have to lose alot of weight on my legs because they are still really fat!!!

Since the op (3 months ago) i have lost about 55 pound, i walk about 2.5 miles each morning and go 3 times a week to aerobic classes. I am trying so hard, i just couldn't understand how stupid he could be. And he wonders why he doesnt get alot of sex!! Lol[/quote']

My now ex husband, after a 22 ur marriage, Mentioned something about my weight gain. F' him. But then he insisted that I was beautiful and don't need this surgery. Divorce finalized 5 days after surgery.

Gen :-)

My now ex husband' date=' after a 22 ur marriage, Mentioned something about my weight gain. F' him. But then he insisted that I was beautiful and don't need this surgery. Divorce finalized 5 days after surgery.

Gen :-)[/quote']

Good for you! It truly is a new beginning for you!

The worst is hearing people say that I "took the easy way out" I bet if they spent even 24hrs in my shoes they would change their tune!

I HATE THIS ONE!

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My now ex husband' date=' after a 22 ur marriage, Mentioned something about my weight gain. F' him. But then he insisted that I was beautiful and don't need this surgery. Divorce finalized 5 days after surgery.

Gen :-)[/quote']

Good for you. He's worthless

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"WOW YOU WERE 276 lbs?! That's me and Chris combined!" (Two men in their mid 20's)

- Kaylee Ann ~ Surgerversary 6/11/2012

I wonder who else they can add if they know I was 352! Idiots

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I think I can handle those comments better then the one I grew up with from my grandpa who said that I would soon have to be weighed at the farmers market in a cow scale if I didn't stop gaining weight. this was when I was only 170 pounds. probably had something to do with why I kept on eating

Ouch! That hurts!

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