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Whats the worst remark someone has said to you post op?

So far its been...wow thats right your on that diet where you starve yourself to death.......seriously?????

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I think the worst comment I've heard is is eitherare, " you dying? You must be dying to lose all that weight.." or one of my good guy friends told me, "you'll never really be skinny anyway... The surgery is going to do horrible things to your skin and it's all going to sag. I'd rather have you stay fat and not have sagging skin!" I was like hmm I thought you were my best friend!

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I think the worst comment I've heard is is eitherare' date=' " you dying? You must be dying to lose all that weight.." or one of my good guy friends told me, "you'll never really be skinny anyway... The surgery is going to do horrible things to your skin and it's all going to sag. I'd rather have you stay fat and not have sagging skin!" I was like hmm I thought you were my best friend![/quote']

Yikes...people get all wierd when they realize thet cant control what is happening to you or change your mind. In general peopl dislike it when they have no say or control over situations

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Someone said to me that she couldn't believe I was having the surgery because its extremely dangerous. She is an RN and also very overweight so I figured she was either jealous or very uneducated about gastric bypass surgery

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Worst comment I've been told: "you wouldn't need surgery if you just learned how to put the fork down and get off the couch"

My reply was something the lines of if it were that easy obesity wouldn't be a problem.

People are lame!

.::SurgeryDate 7/25/12::.

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"WOW YOU WERE 276 lbs?! That's me and Chris combined!" (Two men in their mid 20's)

- Kaylee Ann ~ Surgerversary 6/11/2012

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I can not (yes I can..who am I kidding) how insensitive and rude some people can be..I only told my best friend and my daughter about the surgery..Dec.5th but I have lost weight in the past and people would just readily say to my face it's cause I've been depressed and stressed and not take that um maybe I've been watching what I've been eating for an answer..

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If anyone has said anything negative to me I dont remember so I guess not. I am sorry people have been so ugly to you guys!

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I think the worst comment I've heard is is eitherare, " you dying? You must be dying to lose all that weight.." or one of my good guy friends told me, "you'll never really be skinny anyway... The surgery is going to do horrible things to your skin and it's all going to sag. I'd rather have you stay fat and not have sagging skin!" I was like hmm I thought you were my best friend!

It sounds like your friend is intimated by your act of self-empowerment. Self-empowerment in any form changes relationships.

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"WOW YOU WERE 276 lbs?! That's me and Chris combined!" (Two men in their mid 20's)

- Kaylee Ann ~ Surgerversary 6/11/2012

You know if I were a mean person I might would have said"u can loose the fat but just cant fix ugly & stupid"!!

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One of my colleagues commented that I must be a hypochondriac to have had surgery. He has a master's degree (no guarantee against ignorance). I calmly explained that no, obesity, high blood pressure an hyperlipidemia are dangerous conditions. I was surprised at my colleague's ignorance.

Several people also have commented, "you don't look big enough to need surgery." Again, I calmly explain that I have class I obesity and that I do not want to become morbidly obese. It is very interesting that I have received these comments from other bariatric patients. Fascinating.

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Wow! I have had a person tell me "I'm so glad you had that surgery because you were just huge!" Its surprising how people treat me now that I've had surgery. It's like they're ok with me now that I'm losing weight. My best friend is about the same size as me when I started the process and her grandparents are pressuring me to talk her into surgery. I've told them it's her decision and that I can tell her about my experiences and I'll be there to support her through the process if she chooses this, but ultimately, it's up to her.

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