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How do you deal with people telling you that you don't need to have surgery? They just say cut back and exercise.

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I simply tell them that working out and exercising haven't helped me in the past and that this surgery is just another tool to help me get healthier and explain that you'll still have to work out and eat right that the surgery isnt a cure all! And if they continue to rag on you or say negative things I would just tell them straight up its your life and your decision and against their beliefs you are doing this to better your life and then just move and start talking about something else!

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I'm not so sure there is an effective way for dealing with ignorant and/or prejudiced people. Anyone who believes that diet and exercise is the solution for a worldwide epidemic of overweight and obese folks numbering in the hundreds of millions is, at best, ignorant. Might be best to just smile and nod.

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That's true. My hubby is one if those. Just eat less & exercise & you will be fine. I cook 3 meals a day. Not a simple sandwich. Example: Breakfast scramble eggs with red & green peppers & onions. Sausage & toast & cafe. Then lunch home made mash potatoes & fresh fish. dinner Mac & cheese with chicken kegs & corn. This won't be easy cuz while I diet to prepare for surgery & after surgery. I still have to make 3 meals per day every day.

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DlCoggin

You are totally right! I meant every person body works differently and b/c of it not everyone is able to lose wt w/the conventional way or right way as those negative individuals call it (eat right/exercise and watch what you eat). It just don't work for everyone, that been said this is one of the reason that the majority of us get this amazing tool that is able to help us if we off-course f/u the rules! So let them talk all they want while we get skinny in front of their eyes LOL ;

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I just tell them I know me and my body better than anyone possible could and this is the right decision for me. I've taken a long time to come to this decision with lots of hours of research behind it. Thank you for your concern but, this is best for me.

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DlCoggin

You are totally right! I meant every person body works differently and b/c of it not everyone is able to lose wt w/the conventional way or right way as those negative individuals call it (eat right/exercise and watch what you eat). It just don't work for everyone' date=' that been said this is one of the reason that the majority of us get this amazing tool that is able to help us if we off-course f/u the rules! So let them talk all they want while we get skinny in front of their eyes LOL ;[/quote']

I like that." We get skinny in front of their eyes"

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