Ok, so I'm curious if anyone else is keeping their surgery somewhat of a secret? A very small amount of friends know about my surgery. I didn't want to hear their negative/uneducated thoughts.. So I've kept it to myself and reached out to support groups. Plus, I didn't want people constantly asking me who much I've lost and what can I eat/when. Too many repetitive questions that I don't want to answer over and over again...

Ok' date=' so I'm curious if anyone else is keeping their surgery somewhat of a secret? A very small amount of friends know about my surgery. I didn't want to hear their negative/uneducated thoughts.. So I've kept it to myself and reached out to support groups. Plus, I didn't want people constantly asking me who much I've lost and what can I eat/when. Too many repetitive questions that I don't want to answer over and over again...[/quote']

Oops ... "How much I've lost" ..

Yes I kept mine a secret also bc I just didn't want anyone to know not even my two daughters and one is a R.N. I told them after two days later. Only them and probably their husbands know. I too didn't want phone calls after I got home, don't want a bunch of questions. Not even my pastor knows. If I had to do over I would still do it the same way.

Yes I kept mine a secret also bc I just didn't want anyone to know not even my two daughters and one is a R.N. I told them after two days later. Only them and probably their husbands know. I too didn't want phone calls after I got home' date=' don't want a bunch of questions. Not even my pastor knows. If I had to do over I would still do it the same way.[/quote']

Thanks.. Good to know you would do it the same way. If it must be known that I had some kind of surgery, I think I will just say that I had my gallbladder removed. My situation is a little tricky too bc my surgery is being done @ my place of employment. (Luckily not near the unit that I work on)

I haven't had mine yet, but only my best friend and daughter know. I'm extremely private about it for most of the same reasons as you. Negativity and ppl being nosey. My mom doesn't even know, she'd have a fit...therefore I will be explaining to my surgeon(s)( I also have to have a large cyst removed in surgery so I have 2 surgeons) not to divulge any particulars when they update my family at the hospital. They only know about the cyst and that's how I chose to keep it: I'm finding that lots of ppl keep it private.

I've kept mine pretty quiet....even from friends & family.....the inlaws know, but they don't live nearby and don't see my family/friends....it's hard, and you'll find yourself in difficult situations....I tell people I eat less and watch my carbs.....during meals I tend to ask questions of family/friends I'm eating with....keeps them focused on themselves rather than me (just a little tip)

A friend who's had the gastric bypass noticed the weight loss the other day.....and assumed it was from exercising (since she was supposed to go with me, and blew it off all summer).....I keep wondering when she'll figure it out.....

I kept mine a secret. Work friends all think I'm on vacation. Exactly 9 people know that I had surgery. That's actually 2 more than I intended but I'm ok with it. Good luck to you!

I've only told a few people as well. Ditto all the reasons above. I don't need any unsolicited advice or "well intended" comments. My body, my business!

Secret Sleever here...I've only told my immediate family and in-laws. nobody needs to know your business unless you want to share with the world

I don't like keeping secrets because I am not ashamed of my decision. At first I romantisized keeping this whole thing a secret, even from my mother but then I thought against it because if anything happened while I was having surgery it wouldnt be fair to her that she at least didnt know. I struggled with that for a while.

But I strive to live a transparent life and in that transparancy there may be oppurtunities to touch other people's lives with my story. I already have, twice (that I know of) and at the end of the day... people greivances about my decisions have nothing to do with me. So I do my best not to concern myself with them. It makes for a much happier me.

So far I only told my mom sister brother husband and best friends. I don't plan to tell anyone else not my husbands family or any of my other family. I don't want the judgement and stares and questions. To me it would be like staying fat with all the silent judgement. I'm already working out and changes my diet and I plan on keeping to my self all winter so that after surgery everyone will think I just work out.

I don't even like when people ask me about a new haircut! Your hair looks nice, where did you get your haircut? How much did it cost? Did you get highlights?

Definitely not telling people! The only people who know... My husband and my mother

I am in the same boat as endless80. I have been very open about my decision to pursue the surgery. I have also been very lucky that I have not encountered much of any negative opinions. Sure there are questions, but I really don't mind answering them. And of course some will be concerned. Not for the fact I chose weight loss surgery, but because it is a MAJOR surgery! Once I am done and healed and living my life those concerns will pass. I know two people following my journey who are either wanting the surgery or working towards it, so I know my choice has made a difference in their lives. I think overall people know of my struggles and understand this will help me and is not a "bad" thing. But to be fair, I also realize their are a lot of people in the world who would judge and be negative about it. While it is totally NOT their business, nor is it right that they want us to lose weight yet criticize how we do it, they still exist. So I get that it is a personal decision whether you share your story or not.

I kept the original surgery a secret because I did not know the the outcome would be...I went septic and ended back in the hospital for 5 months...Very hard to keep people from asking questions when you are in that position..

I assumed it would be a hop skip and a jump like so many others and I would not have to answer any questions....

Even with the issues I had with recovery from the surgery only a couple people know the exact truth of the matter...Others have not seen me in quite a while so no one recognizes me at all..I can walk by people I have known for years and they don't see me at all....

I told only the people that I care about and even some of that has changed for me....I keep it my business..

The number one question when I was in the hospital for 5 months was not how is she doing? But, how much weight has she lost being so ill...People are just idiots sometimes and I don't need to hear their opinions on any of my personal business....

I'm going on 11 months out, down 104 lbs and I only told my DH and my BFF. That's it. No family members, no office workers, nobody else. I'm so glad I did.

I work in a hospital and I am gifted woth total honesty...which meant that everyone who asked why I was going on medical leave, got the truth. My coworkers, friends, and family all know about this. Surprisingly I got a lot of positive feedback and some advice from many who have done it and some who have known someone close to them who did it. So I am glad that I was able to tell them!