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Hi' date=' i'm in Tucson and would be glad to help you out.. I'm a year out and down 195 lbs.[/quote']

Thanks Frank! I would definitely be happy to have more friends, especially ones who've gone before me! Plus it'll be nice to hear from a guys perspective! Congrats on the huge loss! That's amazing! Feel free to inbox me anytime!

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I'm 6 months out. Not in AZ but willing to help out anytime if you have questions and such.

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I'm 6 months out. Not in AZ but willing to help out anytime if you have questions and such.

Thanks! Again, I appreciate it. I've narrowed Mr personal circle of friends and cut out the negative ones. That being said between working, and being a mama of active school engaged kids, and starting school in a few weeks it doesn't leave much time for support groups, so I appreciate Abby friend who have actually gone through the journey too!

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Thanks! Again, I appreciate it. I've narrowed Mr personal circle of friends and cut out the negative ones. That being said between working, and being a mama of active school engaged kids, and starting school in a few weeks it doesn't leave much time for support groups, so I appreciate Abby friend who have actually gone through the journey too!

I totally understand! We all lead busy lives and if you can have someone to at least drop a note to for a little help its always helpful! I don't have time for the support groups either but this place has been a big help!

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I totally understand! We all lead busy lives and if you can have someone to at least drop a note to for a little help its always helpful! I don't have time for the support groups either but this place has been a big help!

Exactly. I haven't been active much lately because my personal life is crazy since my husband hates the fact I had the surgery, which has been hard, but it my was my body, my choice and I let his fears keep me from getting wls years ago. I'm struggling with that aspect but as far as my surgery, it's been good. I'm getting in my Water, and trying to get my Protein in as much as I can, it's crazy before when I was stressed or depressed, I'd eat, now I don't like to. So I just have to deal and keep moving forward.

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Thanks! It's going well but lately my personal life is just taking a toll' date=' family in the hospital, another my nana diagnosed with cancer. And no the emotional toll is crazy. It's a roller coaster and hard at times.[/quote']

Pm me anytime u like. I know the emotional roller coaster & impact on mind body connection. I have a broken leg, off work 6 months no end in sight, 8 days post op. My brother died unexpectedly 2 days b4 my surgery. Wow, it's a lot

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Exactly. I haven't been active much lately because my personal life is crazy since my husband hates the fact I had the surgery' date=' which has been hard, but it my was my body, my choice and I let his fears keep me from getting wls years ago. I'm struggling with that aspect but as far as my surgery, it's been good. I'm getting in my Water, and trying to get my Protein in as much as I can, it's crazy before when I was stressed or depressed, I'd eat, now I don't like to. So I just have to deal and keep moving forward.[/quote']

May I ask why he didn't want u to have surgery, othe than obvious it's a big risk? Is he overweight?

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May I ask why he didn't want u to have surgery' date=' othe than obvious it's a big risk? Is he overweight?[/quote']

Yes, he is. He thinks I'll leave him, and won't find him attractive anymore. He keeps saying that 87% of WLS patients leave. I keep trying to tell him they must have had underlying issues in their relationships, or the people let the WLS go to their head. Either way. That's not me.

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Thanks! It's going well but lately my personal life is just taking a toll' date=' family in the hospital, another my nana diagnosed with cancer. And no the emotional toll is crazy. It's a roller coaster and hard at times.[/quote']

Hello I am16 months out and from Canada.

Here anytime if you need a person to listen or to talk too. Hope all is well with you. Take care.

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Hello I am16 months out and from Canada. Here anytime if you need a person to listen or to talk too. Hope all is well with you. Take care.

Awe, :*( I'm so very sry to hear that. Your in my thoughts and prayers.

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Awe' date=' :*( I'm so very sry to hear that. Your in my thoughts and prayers.[/quote']

Thank you! I need all the prayers I can get!

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Praying for you! :-)

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      On day 4 of the 2 week liquid pre-op diet. Surgery scheduled for June 11th.
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      1. LeighaTR

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      On day 4 of the 2 week liquid pre-op diet. Surgery scheduled for June 11th.
      Soooo I am coming to a realization
      of something and I'm not sure what to do about it. For years the only thing I've enjoyed is eating. We rarely do anything or go anywhere and if we do it always includes food. Family comes over? Big family dinner! Go camping? Food! Take a short ride or trip? Food! Holiday? Food! Go out of town for a Dr appointment? Food! When we go to a new town we don't look for any attractions, we look for restaurants we haven't been to. Heck, I look forward to getting off work because that means it's almost supper time. Now that I'm drinking these pre-op shakes for breakfast, lunch, and supper I have nothing to look forward to.  And once I have surgery on June 11th it'll be more of the same shakes. Even after pureed stage, soft food stage, and finally regular food stage, it's going to be a drastic change for the rest of my life. I'm giving up the one thing that really brings me joy. Eating. How do you cope with that? What do you do to fill that void? Wow. Now I'm sad.
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      1. summerseeker

        Life as a big person had limited my life to what I knew I could manage to do each day. That was eat. I hadn't anything else to look forward to. So my eating choices were the best I could dream up. I planned the cooking in managable lots in my head and filled my day with and around it.

        Now I have a whole new big, bigger, biggest, best days ever. I am out there with those skinny people doing stuff i could never have dreamt of. Food is now an after thought. It doesn't consume my day. I still enjoy the good home cooked food but I eat smaller portions. I leave food on my plate when I am full. I can no longer hear my mother's voice saying eat it all up, ther are starving children in Africa who would want that!

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        BTW, the liquid diet sucks, one more day and you are over the worst. You can do it.

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