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I am so sorry that you are going through such a tough time. It's hard enough to adjust to this new way of life without going through the complications that you have had to conquer. Take care of yourself right now and let your family help you. I will put you and your family in my prayers. It will get better even though it doesn't seem like it ever will but it will! I 'm glad you vented your emotions with us that is what we are here for. Keep talking to us and let us help you get through the days! I am sending you a big hug! :)

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My heart breaks for you!! I hope you recover soon and you can enjoy your weight loss!!! Keep us posted. I am having the surgery and fear a leak. How was your discovered? Again, best wishes.

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how did you feel when you had your leak.. I've been through a lot too I got a really bad infection and they kept me for two days they say the problem was. with my kidneys not my stomach... but I've been so tired from my surgery now I'm in bad pain and I need to go get takeout... my eye teared Up that's how bad I've been in pain... I don't regret my surgery yet because my weight has paid off but I have a great pain that I've been through and how sick I've been.. I wish I would have found all the information I knew before I had surgery and the apps... but you will make it through it it does take time and patience.. I truly understand how you feel ...

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I had a leak which is, we pray, is closed, since they decided it was closed I've been going through the hell of trying to wean off of the MASS amount of pain meds I was on and to top it off I have thrush so bad this week I've eaten 4 times since Monday.

Even when I feel "ok" I can't eat more than 2 bites, less than an ounce, and I am so full I am in horrible pain because my stomach shrunk even more due to not being able to eat because of the leak. I can't eat so I have no energy, my body is in constant pain. And just for fun my hair is falling out in handfuls if you touch it.

My heart goes out to you but in time wounds do heal and you will be just fine. You have made it this far and your still breathing even through the hard times. Don't let your setbacks determine your future. I'm praying for you and I know you will be back on your feet in no time....

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You WILL get through this, and I hope, for your sake you get the help you need getting off your meds. You didn't really specify if it was hell coming off them because you are still in pain or if it was bad because you have developed a physical dependence, but either way its not your fault, and if you need help please let your doctor know.

The good news is that everything you are talking about sounds like it will get better with time. Leaks happen, and it can really set things back, but when you come out of that and into normal sleeved life I think you will feel differently.

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You WILL get through this, and I hope, for your sake you get the help you need getting off your meds. You didn't really specify if it was hell coming off them because you are still in pain or if it was bad because you have developed a physical dependence, but either way its not your fault, and if you need help please let your doctor know.

The good news is that everything you are talking about sounds like it will get better with time. Leaks happen, and it can really set things back, but when you come out of that and into normal sleeved life I think you will feel differently.

I agree, I hope C,finds this useful,and gets well soon.

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    • Alisa_S

      On day 4 of the 2 week liquid pre-op diet. Surgery scheduled for June 11th.
      Soooo I am coming to a realization
      of something and I'm not sure what to do about it. For years the only thing I've enjoyed is eating. We rarely do anything or go anywhere and if we do it always includes food. Family comes over? Big family dinner! Go camping? Food! Take a short ride or trip? Food! Holiday? Food! Go out of town for a Dr appointment? Food! When we go to a new town we don't look for any attractions, we look for restaurants we haven't been to. Heck, I look forward to getting off work because that means it's almost supper time. Now that I'm drinking these pre-op shakes for breakfast, lunch, and supper I have nothing to look forward to.  And once I have surgery on June 11th it'll be more of the same shakes. Even after pureed stage, soft food stage, and finally regular food stage, it's going to be a drastic change for the rest of my life. I'm giving up the one thing that really brings me joy. Eating. How do you cope with that? What do you do to fill that void? Wow. Now I'm sad.
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      1. LeighaTR

        I hope your surgery on Wednesday goes well. You will be able to do all sorts of new things as you find your new normal after surgery. I don't know this from experience yet, but I am seeing a lot of positive things from people who have had it done. Best of luck!

    • Alisa_S

      On day 4 of the 2 week liquid pre-op diet. Surgery scheduled for June 11th.
      Soooo I am coming to a realization
      of something and I'm not sure what to do about it. For years the only thing I've enjoyed is eating. We rarely do anything or go anywhere and if we do it always includes food. Family comes over? Big family dinner! Go camping? Food! Take a short ride or trip? Food! Holiday? Food! Go out of town for a Dr appointment? Food! When we go to a new town we don't look for any attractions, we look for restaurants we haven't been to. Heck, I look forward to getting off work because that means it's almost supper time. Now that I'm drinking these pre-op shakes for breakfast, lunch, and supper I have nothing to look forward to.  And once I have surgery on June 11th it'll be more of the same shakes. Even after pureed stage, soft food stage, and finally regular food stage, it's going to be a drastic change for the rest of my life. I'm giving up the one thing that really brings me joy. Eating. How do you cope with that? What do you do to fill that void? Wow. Now I'm sad.
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      1. summerseeker

        Life as a big person had limited my life to what I knew I could manage to do each day. That was eat. I hadn't anything else to look forward to. So my eating choices were the best I could dream up. I planned the cooking in managable lots in my head and filled my day with and around it.

        Now I have a whole new big, bigger, biggest, best days ever. I am out there with those skinny people doing stuff i could never have dreamt of. Food is now an after thought. It doesn't consume my day. I still enjoy the good home cooked food but I eat smaller portions. I leave food on my plate when I am full. I can no longer hear my mother's voice saying eat it all up, ther are starving children in Africa who would want that!

        I still cook for family feasts, I love cooking. I still do holidays but I have changed from the All inclusive drinking and eating everything everyday kind to Self catering accommodation. This gives me the choice of cooking or eating out as I choose. I rarely drink anymore as I usually travel alone now and I feel I need to keep aware of my surroundings.

        I don't know at what point my life expanded, was it when I lost 100 pounds? Was it when I left my walking stick at home ? Was it when I said yes to an outing instead of finding an excuse to stay home ? i look back at my last five years and wonder how loosing weight has made such a difference. Be ready to amaze yourself.

        BTW, the liquid diet sucks, one more day and you are over the worst. You can do it.

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