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Hello everyone! I joined a few days ago and lurked. (Sorry, just wanted to know what I was getting myself into!) I'm ready to be smaller (I personally hate the words "thin" and "skinny") and healthier so I can get on with my life the way I should have been for years.

This is my third time pursuing bariatric surgery. The first time was interrupted by a family challenge, the second by insurance (they are putzes!) and now, I have made friends with everyone I can who determines my insurance approval fate and I'm sure some are ready to tell me to quit calling and asking the same question over and over again to make sure I am doing everything right!

My tale, like many of yours, is of being "chunky", "heavy", and "thick" all my life. I never minded being the "big" girl since I was tall and carried my weight evenly. I have PCOS that was not diagnosed until I was in my late 30's. I have four four-legged children but God did not bless my husband and me with any of the two-legged variety.

So, let's make this interesting ...

Please reply with your favorite "you would be so ________ if you would just lose weight" story.

My favorite is: I did a great deal of theatre in college and loved being on the stage,doing both standard plays and musicals. One day, during a break in rehearsals, a young man came up to me and said "you have such a beautiful face, you could be a great actress if you would just lose weight!"

My reply: I just smiled and said "You have a great face, too. And if you would lose the a**hole attitude, you could get a date with a woman who has more going for her than a great face and a tiny waistline!"

Hope is always with us ... make it your friend!

Jen :D

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Ok...here goes...(and I can't get this thing to STOP underlining my words!!! Still figuring this site out! I would be so HEALTHY if I would just lose weight. The weight and my food choices, of course, are what got me in this mess, not watching what I put in my mouth is what helped my Diabetes come out in full force, and now...I just told my husband last night, I am learning to eat to live, I no longer feel that I live to eat. Food was my buddy, my pal, exercise was my enemy for two reasons, 1 because I couldn't breathe when I did it, and 2 because even with a trainer I didn't drop a pound in 6 months and I was in the gym all the time. Now that I look back, yes I was working out, but I wasn't watching what was going in my mouth. Hmmm...you think THAT might have been the issue!!! So now, I don't really enjoy eating, it's hard to eat when you aren't hungry, and I am exercising, and I think(judging by my clothing) that I am losing inches because the darn scale isn't moving, at the moment!!! But my clothes are fitting different. I want to be a healthy person, make the right choices and live a lot longer than where I was headed. I used to be athletic, back in the day, and when I work out with people they are surprised at what I actually CAN do...yep the chunky girl still has it!!! I just have to realize that and work to get that back!!! I want this tummy gone, I hate NOT being pregnant and people asking when the baby is due, when I reply 7 YEARS AGO, they look at me confused then stick their foot in their mouth!!! Makes me chuckle a bit!!! So, onward in this journey we go!!! Replacing the love affair with food with a new love, a healthy love...a love for ourselves because we have realized that we ARE worth it!!!

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I love your statement! It is sort of like this You know I can lose weight but you can't fix stupid!

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Ohhh, I think I love you. With your 'tude, you'll fit right in here.

If I lose weight, I might be "here" longer (as in alive).

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Hi Jen, I'm sorry you hate the word "skinny" but be ready cos I would be one of the first people to call you that when the weight starts melting off you. Sorry but it will happen eventually.

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Thank you all so much for replying! I prefer the term healthy over anything else. I am a thyroid cancer survivor, T2 Diabetic, and (per my husband and friends) crazy as a loon! I love life and want to be around and enjoying life for all it is worth for a long time. Huggzzzz to you all!

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      On day 4 of the 2 week liquid pre-op diet. Surgery scheduled for June 11th.
      Soooo I am coming to a realization
      of something and I'm not sure what to do about it. For years the only thing I've enjoyed is eating. We rarely do anything or go anywhere and if we do it always includes food. Family comes over? Big family dinner! Go camping? Food! Take a short ride or trip? Food! Holiday? Food! Go out of town for a Dr appointment? Food! When we go to a new town we don't look for any attractions, we look for restaurants we haven't been to. Heck, I look forward to getting off work because that means it's almost supper time. Now that I'm drinking these pre-op shakes for breakfast, lunch, and supper I have nothing to look forward to.  And once I have surgery on June 11th it'll be more of the same shakes. Even after pureed stage, soft food stage, and finally regular food stage, it's going to be a drastic change for the rest of my life. I'm giving up the one thing that really brings me joy. Eating. How do you cope with that? What do you do to fill that void? Wow. Now I'm sad.
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      1. LeighaTR

        I hope your surgery on Wednesday goes well. You will be able to do all sorts of new things as you find your new normal after surgery. I don't know this from experience yet, but I am seeing a lot of positive things from people who have had it done. Best of luck!

    • Alisa_S

      On day 4 of the 2 week liquid pre-op diet. Surgery scheduled for June 11th.
      Soooo I am coming to a realization
      of something and I'm not sure what to do about it. For years the only thing I've enjoyed is eating. We rarely do anything or go anywhere and if we do it always includes food. Family comes over? Big family dinner! Go camping? Food! Take a short ride or trip? Food! Holiday? Food! Go out of town for a Dr appointment? Food! When we go to a new town we don't look for any attractions, we look for restaurants we haven't been to. Heck, I look forward to getting off work because that means it's almost supper time. Now that I'm drinking these pre-op shakes for breakfast, lunch, and supper I have nothing to look forward to.  And once I have surgery on June 11th it'll be more of the same shakes. Even after pureed stage, soft food stage, and finally regular food stage, it's going to be a drastic change for the rest of my life. I'm giving up the one thing that really brings me joy. Eating. How do you cope with that? What do you do to fill that void? Wow. Now I'm sad.
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      1. summerseeker

        Life as a big person had limited my life to what I knew I could manage to do each day. That was eat. I hadn't anything else to look forward to. So my eating choices were the best I could dream up. I planned the cooking in managable lots in my head and filled my day with and around it.

        Now I have a whole new big, bigger, biggest, best days ever. I am out there with those skinny people doing stuff i could never have dreamt of. Food is now an after thought. It doesn't consume my day. I still enjoy the good home cooked food but I eat smaller portions. I leave food on my plate when I am full. I can no longer hear my mother's voice saying eat it all up, ther are starving children in Africa who would want that!

        I still cook for family feasts, I love cooking. I still do holidays but I have changed from the All inclusive drinking and eating everything everyday kind to Self catering accommodation. This gives me the choice of cooking or eating out as I choose. I rarely drink anymore as I usually travel alone now and I feel I need to keep aware of my surroundings.

        I don't know at what point my life expanded, was it when I lost 100 pounds? Was it when I left my walking stick at home ? Was it when I said yes to an outing instead of finding an excuse to stay home ? i look back at my last five years and wonder how loosing weight has made such a difference. Be ready to amaze yourself.

        BTW, the liquid diet sucks, one more day and you are over the worst. You can do it.

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      Officially here for a long time, not just a good time💪
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